Whore Phase: Is it real or a trap?

Let’s get this right, sleeping around with numerous men isn’t something that happens by mistake. Women are not possessed, as they know what they’re doing. Imagine going through the whole process of four plays and then engaging in sexual intercourse. And at the end of the day, you call it a mistake. Come on, that’s an excuse and lack of accountability. Someone taking off your clothes isn’t a mistake, it’s done deliberately and you cannot blame it on the next person. Truth be told, many women know what they’re doing when they let men have their ways with their precious jewel in between their legs. How do you expect men to respect you when they know you’ve had sexual intercourse with the community in the name of the “whore phase”. By the way, respect is earned not given on a silver platter. How many times have you had women saying they’re going through a whore phase? This is mostly said when a woman decides to go into a relationship and even marriage without having a high body count. The most famous advice: “Don’t get married without having experienced your whore phase.” If you do then your man will play with your feelings and leave you hanging. Let’s be honest, sleeping around doesn’t make you a better partner in a relationship and will never make you settle down easily. If you have a horrible past that you’re not proud of; let your partner know in the beginning, so that he can decide if he wants to stick around or not.

Remember that going through a whore phase might make you lose a great partner in your life, hence, it’s a trap. You’re not obligated to follow what your friends tell you, and even what the community says about love and relationships. However, you cannot fall into a trap of the so-called whore phase when you have what it takes to make sound decisions. How many men will marry women within a whore phase? Or even after her whore phase? Let’s take it that they’re extremely honest with their partners. Truth be told, not many men will agree to such horrendous behaviour; as they mostly want women who are exclusive to themselves, especially sexually. Imagine dating a woman as a man and he constantly hears his peers saying they’ve slept with his girlfriend. That won’t sit well with any man as they want a loyal woman who will do great for him. Hence, in most cases, if a man finds out his woman cheated on him; then his question will be: “Did you sleep with him?” As that will determine if he takes her back or not.

The whore phase has been idolised on social media in a way that numerous women feel it’s acceptable. Whoever has gone through a whole phase, they don’t share the trials and tribulations that come with it. If you think about it; you cannot go around hurting people’s feelings in the name of a whore phase, hoping that you will have a superb life thereafter. Remember that whatever you do to others will be done to you. Don’t get mad when you’re done with your whore phase; then you meet someone who will sell you a dream and end up messing with your life too and that’s called karma. Since a whore phase is a choice, how about you ask men if they want to take part in your little adventure? Before breaking their hearts and blaming everything on them, as if they were part of your sneaky plan from the beginning. Unfortunately, a whole phase exists only on women than gladly want to be part of it. Ideally, women shouldn’t condone this sort of behaviour as it’s deadly; psychologically, physically, spiritually, and even financially. Self-love is what’s needed instead of women indulging themselves in a whore phase. Sadly, some women have never come back from their whore phase as they ended up buried six feet underground as which messed with their health. Imagine having children while you’re busy with your whore life. What will they learn from your lifestyle? What example are you setting for your children? Be careful with your decisions and actions as they might affect your legacy.

Before taking a journey to whoreism, look at the pros and cons of it. Even though there’s more negativity that’s associated with it, but at the end of the day, it’s your body and your choice. When things don’t accordingly don’t say what if I don’t participate in a whore phase? Having regrets will be the death of you; live a life that you’re proud of, even if it would be turned into a television show, or book, you wouldn’t mind.  Whatever you do, take good care of yourself.

The golden rule of money: “Don’t spend money that you don’t have.”

How are your spending habits? Let’s be honest about ourselves in this massive matter, it feels amazing spending money. Others spend their money and certain individuals might spend other people’s finances.  The question is do you spend it all and then struggle the next day? Or do you spend it sparingly as you know that you have numerous investments portfolios that are lucrative? No one is saying people shouldn’t be spending their money; however, when they hit rock bottom, and start seeking help from other individuals that were never there when it was all peaches and cream then that’s a massive problem. Spending habits can make or break you, however, it depends on what you’re buying. Is it a liability or an asset? That’s what you need to ask yourself whenever you purchase something, especially that’s not part of your budget. 

Some people will say it’s their money and decisions, which is correct. Hence they can do whatever they want with their money, if they want to blow it on expensive items then they have every right to do so. The superb thing about advice is that others don’t need to utilize or practice. There are different people out there that offer all sort of advice when it comes to money, however, it’s up to as an individual if you accept it or not. Now, that’s out of the way, you need to play different scenarios in your head when it comes to money. Ask yourself what will happen if you lose your occupation or your business shutdowns? Do you have finances in place that can sustain your standard of living even after you don’t have your core cash cow anymore? Ideally, you should speak to different trusted professional financial advisors so that you can look at numerous investments options such as, buying properties, shares, venturing into new businesses, etc.

It’s all good that you have an occupation that brings pays you if you’re satisfied with the wages or salaries that’s up to you. However, we hope that you get what you’re worth within the company. There’s always something special about a happy employee or employer. Crazy enough finances play a critical role in maximizing those kinds of happiness. If you’re spending money to impress others, then that’s up to you. The question is how long will you be partaking in such an extreme sport in your life? Truth be told, it doesn’t end well for many people that take the route of spending money that they don’t have in their lives. As they end up getting unnecessary debt that will mess with their credit scores as they end up being blacklisted. If you don’t have enough money at your disposal, why don’t you try to figure out multiple streams of income? Or just try to diversify your current stream of income to get more money out of it? There’s no problem with having an occupation but the issue starts when you’re living beyond your means. Imagine if you get paid $20 000 per month but your spending habits, including your bills, are over $30 000 monthly. 

This means that you end up getting multiple loans (formal and informal loans) to support your lifestyle. Please make it make sense! You’re playing with fire. If you cannot live within your means, then it’s okay to live below your means. Whatever you do, you’re advised to never spend money you don’t. This includes planning for money that you haven’t received, as that might lead to disappointments. Have fun with your money, don’t forget that it doesn’t come easy and there will be sacrifices in your lifestyle that might be needed to get your idea of financial freedom. Make money your friend and familiarize yourself with different aspects of trying to diversify your finances. Ideally, you should earn your money, invest, save and then spend. Times are tough, but do what works for you. That’s if you don’t want to live from hand to mouth.

Monday Tendencies

When the alarm goes off on Monday morning, it’s like I’m still dreaming. The funny thing is that on the weekend, I tell myself that I will not even attempt to hit snooze on my phone. I will just wake up when it’s time to leave my bed and that will be according to the alarm. Even though I sleep early on Sundays, but my issue is that I wake up just after 01:00 am, which has become a habit that irritates me. After that I struggle to fall asleep again, then this messes up my sleeping pattern and my morning schedule. The crazy thing is that I then fall asleep after 04:00 am, which is 30 minutes before I start my day. This has made my Mondays a bit challenging, as I start my day a bit later than usual. When I’m awake between 01:00 to 04:00 am, I’m not even productive since I’m still in bed and at that time the blankets are warmer.

It’s even colder to leave the bed at that time since I sleep with my phone under my pillow. I feel that it’s convenient for me to do that as I can easily hear the alarm and press snooze too. Surely, this isn’t the right way to go about a day for anyone including myself. Somehow, I know I’m not the only one who goes through this kind of tricky morning schedule. I think I’m being considerate though, this cannot be a tricky schedule, it’s just horrible in my eyes. I don’t know about you but I have to find a way to stop it. Having a schedule that will make sure that I remain productive throughout the day, while I still have time for me will do wonders for me.

I cannot start my Mondays with snooze, that’s just not right at all. It’s a new week filled with amazing possibilities that will take me further in life. Then why should I be on the back foot and not be prepared for the great Monday that I have constantly been praying for since Sunday? It makes me wonder, why can’t I execute certain impressive ideas on my mind. Then again, I look at how I use my time and that will tell me a lot about myself. There’s no way that I can have bigger dreams but my work ethic doesn’t match my visions. I know many people will always say it’s easier said than done. Hence you can have the best plan on paper, but everything lies in execution.  There’s nothing wrong with pinpointing your mistakes and then rectifying them to be a better individual. I don’t have any issues with Monday or any other day for that matter. It’s just that I was noticing a strange pattern in how I do things lately, I can’t believe I’ve been hiding behind the winter season. I’ve found myself having to choose the bed on Mondays as if that will help me with my productivity. The main challenge lately has been leaving the bed earlier than I anticipated on Monday mornings. If I miss my alarm, then I’ll wake up super late and that’s not something that I love doing. I don’t like to rush things, unfortunately, when I’m late I have to be quick.

What I’ve learned is that I cannot have my cellphone in my bedroom, so that I will have to leave the bed every time the alarm goes off. Then I will have to tell myself that I cannot go back to bed because my day has started. Then I’ll have to work with my grumpy self in the early morning and get on with it. Over the years though, I’ll be back at this and laugh it off. At the moment I’m working on progress, soon I’ll get it right. The crazy thing is that I used to wake up early to prepare for school, now I’ve gone back to the awkward sleeping pattern which will end. Monday, thank you for being beautiful! I will conquer Mondays!

I've taken a long one-year hiatus from blogging and here's why

You know what they say, life happens. I've been reminiscing about making a come back to blogging for a while now. I've had a lot of time on my hands ever since I've lost my occupation, thanks to the Covid-19 pandemic. One thing I'm grateful for is that I'm still alive and I still have a shot at changing my life for the better. It has been challenging having to adjust to the new normal. I still struggle getting used to wearing a mask every time I'm in public and also, practising social distancing. It's a great challenge though since we've just entered into different waves within the country. 

I make sure that I wear my mask every time I'm out and out within this beautiful country called South Africa. Even though I've minimized my movements for my health. When it comes to hygiene, I didn't have an issue with constantly washing and sanitizing my hands. I have the portable sanitiser that I keep in my pocket. Amid Covid-19, I've learned to spend more time with my loved ones and practise more self-love. Before the pandemic, I was caught up with working and putting in extra shifts to get more money every month. I lost myself chasing money, I had no time to check up on my loved ones. I didn't even have time for myself, all I did was mostly being at work. I felt like I was part of the furniture since I was there six times a week and even seven days at some point. 

I failed at balancing my work and personal life. When the country went to the level 5 lockdown towards the end of March 2020, that's when I got exposed that I had nothing else to do rather than work. I even dumped the hobbies that I had just to focus on my occupation and provide for my family and myself. Who was going to pay the rent? Who was going to buy the food? Who was going to pay for all the utilities? I've taken up the role of being a sole provider at home and I had to do it all. When I've lost the job, that's when I felt like I lost my voice within myself and my family. What even made me more furious was that I lost my love for blogging too.

I can't believe that I've been away from blogging for about 14 months. That's just crazy and I've been constantly thinking about what I'll write about as I had writer's block. I think I've overcome it by posting this piece which is filled with emotions. I barely share what's on my mind since I usually dissect a topic or what's happening in the entertainment industry. Things will have to change now for the better, as I will have to share different thoughts on my mind in the hope it will touch someone's life out there. One thing I've realized since I've been away from blogging is that I love writing and I will do whatever it takes to become better at it. What's exciting is that I am now doing this on a full-time basis, and foresee nothing but success. I am open to collaborations with different people and brands. I'm looking forward to doing sponsored posts too and even writing services. Please do email: scarcitysa@gamil for any business inquiries.

I just want to grow this blog and hopefully, it becomes one of the best in the world. Let's go on a blogging journey together. I hope you enjoy your stay on The Blog That Rocks!