I Need To Know!

Written By Sivuyile Tshalana.

I have a couple of unanswered questions in my mind that I need answers to and really your honesty is required. We've been together for sometime now and I would like to know where do we stand as a couple? Don't get me wrong I just want to figure out the state of our relationship. I'm enjoying the love we giving each other, I adore your company and all that comes with it. Sex is great and I couldn't change it for anything in the world. But that isn't all, i wanted to know where we going in terms of our relationship. What are your goals and how are going to achieve them collectively as a couple?

I don't want us to waste each other's time by only living in the moment. Although its great living in the moment and not having to worry about what our future entails. Basically not thinking broadly about our tomorrow and what it holds. Unfortunately in this case,  have to ask you if you up for longevity in terms of our relationship and our love. Are you prepared to date one man intentionally and loving every moment of it? Despite the challenges that comes with it. Are you going to be by my side through ups and downs? Are you prepared being questioned by other people why you dating me and what makes me special from other men in the world? I just need to know since I love building an umpire with a special partner. I don't really like dating many people, as well as being involved on those few months relationships that don't last. At the same time I don't want to force anyone to fully commit to me as well as us. I would really appreciate your honesty so that I will know where I stand within our relationship. Are you content in terms of our relationship itself? I know that we still have a long way to go in terms of our personal goals. It's just that I have been quietly looking at our relationship and the weight of it on us. The question that came up was is this what we both want in terms of love and relationships goals?

Hence it is very important to know what you want in a relationship and be clear about why you started it. This is done on purpose to make sure that both people involved in the relationship are on the same page in terms of their needs and wants as well as the description of their relationship. Are we dating each other to benefit certain hidden things from each other, things like money, clothes, food, house and car - as well as many other materialistic things. That will just put into a proper perspective if we in love or its just lust nor we both playing a game. I need to know so that i can protect my feelings if there's a need for such actions. I am very capable of loving you and being happy with you for the rest of my life. But that is just on my side, i wouldn't want you to say the things you wanted me to hear as in sugarcoating certain things for me. I didn't want to keep all these questions to myself as I felt you needed to know what's on my mind when it comes to our precious relationship. It really means a lot to me, hence I needed clarity on where we going in terms of our love and relationship. You're truly an incredible human being, and if you had your own personal plans without me I would truly understand that and happily let you achieve your goals. I just wanted you to spit out whatever that's on your mind about us and we would then take it from there.

I need to know if your love is unconditional and true. It doesn't change like weather or even mood swings. Is your love here to stay temporary or for a lifetime? Is your love transparent and not two faced? I need to know if you love having a big family and that can you handle being a working wife and mother? Can you multitask and stop complaining about what isn't going correctly in your life? Are you a talker or a doer in terms of your dreams? Can you handle being a wife. Do you love children and marriage? Can you submit to your man? Can you stay within your role in a relationship? What comes first in your life, is it your happiness or other people's happiness?  I just need to know if you ready to transform your life into our life? Do you think before you act? I need to know.

How To Make A Girl Smile And Love Hanging Out With You?

Written By Sivuyile Tshalana.

There’s nothing sexy like seeing a happy girl. Damn, happiness looks amazing on a girl. Especially if a guy has something to do with it. There’s that extra glow when a girl loves being around her special somebody. Don’t get me wrong a girl can also be happy on her own but it’s more noticeable when she has a partner to share that true happiness with all day everyday. The aim is to spread unconditional love not hate. As guy there are certain things that you need to do to keep a girl happy within your life.

Simple things like calling her weekly to check up on her. Having those fruitful conversations on the phone while cracking up jokes here and there within the call. Many girls love morning texts, here’s an example: “Good morning beautiful, hope you slept well. I hope you have a great productive day. Take care and God bless.” Compliments works often than not, just shower her with compliments while you maintaining eye contact with her and smile while talking to her. Also making sure that you as a guy you constantly keep the communication on a high, if you can’t call or text her, leave an offline message on her social network. You can even leave a different meaningful or romantic message on all her social media platforms. The thing is as a guy you must not stop being sweet, caring, kind, thoughtful, respectful and showing unconditional love to a girl. What you can also do is when you in the garden pick a beautiful flower and give her when you see her. Even when you going to buy some groceries you can buy chocolate for her. When she asks is this for me or why you being so good to me? Say to her, you deserve the best things in life. When I see certain best things in life, I automatically think of you.

Make a girl feel like the only girl in the world. All of this is strictly achieved by being there for her when she needs a shoulder to cry as well as in good times. Spend some quality time with her and try by all means to make her one of your top priorities in life. Show a lot of gratitude towards her and make her feel your presence. Most importantly listen before you talk to her. Get to know her as well as her favourites things she loves to do on her spare time and do it with her. It’s great to have someone to count on as a human being and a girl will cherish your efforts for life.