Whore Phase: Is it real or a trap?

Let’s get this right, sleeping around with numerous men isn’t something that happens by mistake. Women are not possessed, as they know what they’re doing. Imagine going through the whole process of four plays and then engaging in sexual intercourse. And at the end of the day, you call it a mistake. Come on, that’s an excuse and lack of accountability. Someone taking off your clothes isn’t a mistake, it’s done deliberately and you cannot blame it on the next person. Truth be told, many women know what they’re doing when they let men have their ways with their precious jewel in between their legs. How do you expect men to respect you when they know you’ve had sexual intercourse with the community in the name of the “whore phase”. By the way, respect is earned not given on a silver platter. How many times have you had women saying they’re going through a whore phase? This is mostly said when a woman decides to go into a relationship and even marriage without having a high body count. The most famous advice: “Don’t get married without having experienced your whore phase.” If you do then your man will play with your feelings and leave you hanging. Let’s be honest, sleeping around doesn’t make you a better partner in a relationship and will never make you settle down easily. If you have a horrible past that you’re not proud of; let your partner know in the beginning, so that he can decide if he wants to stick around or not.

Remember that going through a whore phase might make you lose a great partner in your life, hence, it’s a trap. You’re not obligated to follow what your friends tell you, and even what the community says about love and relationships. However, you cannot fall into a trap of the so-called whore phase when you have what it takes to make sound decisions. How many men will marry women within a whore phase? Or even after her whore phase? Let’s take it that they’re extremely honest with their partners. Truth be told, not many men will agree to such horrendous behaviour; as they mostly want women who are exclusive to themselves, especially sexually. Imagine dating a woman as a man and he constantly hears his peers saying they’ve slept with his girlfriend. That won’t sit well with any man as they want a loyal woman who will do great for him. Hence, in most cases, if a man finds out his woman cheated on him; then his question will be: “Did you sleep with him?” As that will determine if he takes her back or not.

The whore phase has been idolised on social media in a way that numerous women feel it’s acceptable. Whoever has gone through a whole phase, they don’t share the trials and tribulations that come with it. If you think about it; you cannot go around hurting people’s feelings in the name of a whore phase, hoping that you will have a superb life thereafter. Remember that whatever you do to others will be done to you. Don’t get mad when you’re done with your whore phase; then you meet someone who will sell you a dream and end up messing with your life too and that’s called karma. Since a whore phase is a choice, how about you ask men if they want to take part in your little adventure? Before breaking their hearts and blaming everything on them, as if they were part of your sneaky plan from the beginning. Unfortunately, a whole phase exists only on women than gladly want to be part of it. Ideally, women shouldn’t condone this sort of behaviour as it’s deadly; psychologically, physically, spiritually, and even financially. Self-love is what’s needed instead of women indulging themselves in a whore phase. Sadly, some women have never come back from their whore phase as they ended up buried six feet underground as which messed with their health. Imagine having children while you’re busy with your whore life. What will they learn from your lifestyle? What example are you setting for your children? Be careful with your decisions and actions as they might affect your legacy.

Before taking a journey to whoreism, look at the pros and cons of it. Even though there’s more negativity that’s associated with it, but at the end of the day, it’s your body and your choice. When things don’t accordingly don’t say what if I don’t participate in a whore phase? Having regrets will be the death of you; live a life that you’re proud of, even if it would be turned into a television show, or book, you wouldn’t mind.  Whatever you do, take good care of yourself.

Why most women DON’T deserve GOOD MEN?

Have you ever been in a relationship whereby you think everything is going well? As you're prepared to go all out for your girlfriend then you figured that she's not the person she portrayed herself to be at the beginning of the relationship. That's when you realize that you've been played and made a fool, even though you've done things but being good to her. As a good man, you were able to keep her happy throughout the relationship until the last moment whereby she screwed you over. It can be either she cheated on you, even kept secrets, and constantly lied within the relationships. Also, she was even emotionally, physically, and financially abusive. It doesn't matter what sort of pain that she brought into your life, as there will never be a proper explanation to justify her actions. If you love someone, there's nothing that should lead to hurting your partner. 

Unfortunately, many women will say there are no good men left in this world, which isn't true, since most of them end up not treating them right once they found their prince charming. They just don’t know what to do with them. Remember that most good men know what they want from a woman and a relationship. Everything is clear to them in terms of an ideal partner. They’re not asking for much though, as they mostly prefer women that will know their place in the relationship and stop interfering with things that don’t concern them. Also, they value peace, loyalty, respect, unconditional love, kindness, and patience. A good man can do everything by the book, but still, get heartbroken. Also, most good men are in the friend zone, unfortunately, the majority of women will not bother to even dissect their friendzone list. They'll be surprised how many good men they'll found within their circle.

In most cases, when certain women are at their prime they don't even look at the good man's side, as they feel that they're boring, serious about life, and cannot have fun with them in life. That's when you find the same women chasing bad boys who will leave them heartaches, trauma, and all sort of unresolved issues. After the bad boys are done with these sorts of women that's when they kick them to the curb and move on to the next better women. Then the same hurt women will now seek a good man as they want to settle down and he must heal all her wounds and past traumas. This isn't fair on a good man as he deserves someone who will be able to have a loving relationship with but not try to play a saviour. Ideally, if a woman has been hurt, she needs to take her time and go through the healing process. Not jump from relationships to relationships since that is a recipe for disaster. Everyone deserves to be loved unconditionally, even broken women, however, they should fix their issues first, by cleaning up their dirty closet filled with past traumas. Also, they will have to know what to do with a good man, once they found their Mr Right. 

Nevertheless, if you're a toxic woman then you don't deserve a good man. The crazy thing is you will constantly complain about your love life, as it seems like nothing superb is coming out of it. Then you forget that you're a common denominator, that chooses the wrong men who will promise you the world but even give it to their loved ones and themselves. Empty promises will be the death of many relationships, hence you should take your time when you're thinking about dating. Get to know the person, if they're don't meet your standards, then move on. Keep it real, don't waste each other's time, date with a purpose in mind, which is getting married and starting a family (that's if you want children).

Don’t save her, she doesn’t want to be saved, bro. Stop wasting your valuable assets on her!

The bitter truth is that most men should stop trying to father or brother their partners. It’s a relationship, get that first, meaning you shouldn’t feel like you’re putting in all the work. Meanwhile, your girlfriend is on cruise control and not even worried about you nor the relationship. Every man needs to understand that love is a two-way street, what they do for their partners should be returned, presumably good things only. However, we cannot ignore that relationships have ups and downs. It’s our choice to remain in relationships that make or break us. Ideally, no one deserves to be in any relationship that compromises his happiness and sanity. Hence you will always hear people saying you should always exit toxic relationships. This means you should also know when love isn’t served in a relationship and stop hoping things will change.

Most men might turn a blind eye to certain expects of a relationship, which may leave them deep into trouble. This is visible when most men lower their standards to attract their significant other, which is playing with fire. Imagine taking allowing someone in your life that doesn’t fit the description of what you’re looking for in a relationship. It’s challenging for men to get good women that know what they want in life and relationship. Men like to keep it simple whenever they’re looking for a woman today, it’s usually outer beauty that attracts them to any person. Then what makes them stay in the relationship and even end up taking it to the next step, is inner beauty. The issue starts when most men overlook their needs in the relationship for the sake of their women. Meaning that they don’t care about their feelings and sacrifice every little thing in their lives to provide the life that their partners desire. 

The moment you feel like you’re doing a lot more than what you’re supposed to be doing, then it’s time to do some self-introspection and analyze your relationship. It doesn’t hurt to address this with your partner too. Otherwise, you might be playing yourself and that will lead to heartaches and unnecessary stress. Men should not try to save women in relationships, it doesn’t end well especially if they don’t want to be saved. As they’ll get blamed for everything that’s going wrong in the relationship. All that valuable time, energy, and money that you’re spending on her is a bad investment. Even if you try to knock some sense in her through meaningful conversations trying to uplift her but if she doesn’t want to listen then you’ve wasted your words. As she might turn good conversations into arguments. There’s no way you will get your return of investment when it comes to females that don’t know what they want in life. A lot of men fall into the trap of trying to look after their women, in a way that they forget to notice when they’re in relationships with themselves. 

Without any doubt, not every woman is the same, there are also good ones, which are rare to find. Hence most men that believe in love and marriage don’t hesitate when they meet one, they do everything necessary to tie her down. A household with loving partners breathes nothing but happiness. That turns a house into a home filled with an amazing family. After all, having a superb legacy is something that will always be cherished. Men don’t want an irresponsible woman who lacks self-love, accountability, and resilience to bring their children into this world. Who wants baby mama drama when you can have peace and love with a good woman.