Written By Sivuyile Tshalana.
When you enter into a relationship you cannot stop thinking about your partner, because you love the person dearly and you would do anything to make sure your loved one is happy. Within the relationship there are certain behaviours that lead to break-ups and people walking their separate ways. We all have an idea about our ideal partners, how they should look, behave, dress, their mentality towards their lives, people and the world, what are they bringing into the relationship, are they employed or unemployed and what does not bother us about their past before entering a relationship. If a person meets your relationship requirements and suitable to date. But in the relationship there are certain things that are deal breakers, cause conflicts or friction and your relationship cannot survive them.
Firstly we have to look at the women's relationship deal breakers, as the saying goes ‘women first’ that is if men still use it nowadays and hopefully they still use it. In the second part, we will look at men's relationship deal breakers. Women got different relationship deal breakers and some people might find some of them ridiculous, while others will agree with them, because one way or the other they have caused break-ups within relationships. These relationships deal breakers are lack of communication and listening skills, when partners do not talk and listen to each other like they suppose to, it causes problems. Lack of sex or unsatisfying sex whereby your partner does not perform well sexually. Cheating, that’s when their partner date another person while they still date them. An abusive partner, whether they abuse you physically, psychologically and emotionally. Untrustworthy and immatured partners. Lack of attention, this causes a women to feel unhappy and unappreciated within a relationship, especially when women do something they want their partners to recognize, in this way the women is seeking for your attention. Their partners should leave whatever they are doing and focus on them. When their partners do not take care of themselves and they have bad breath (no mouth hygiene), this is a major turn off. Broken promises, whereby a partner says they will do something but do not do it. Long distance relationship, when they are dating partners that are not near them in terms of places they reside in. Lack of fun, meaning that they do not even go out, play games and explore new things together in life. Another thing is money, so if women do not get some sort of money allowance to sustain themselves in terms of hair, manicure, pedicure, clothes and jewellery that can put a huge strain on the relationships. They also use the money for other personal use. These deal breakers are real, and many women live by them and cannot sacrifice them when it comes to a relationship. Some of these deal breakers might come as a shock to others depending on their preferences in relationships and why they enter into certain relationships. These relationships deal breakers can be fixed as long as the partners truly want to be helped. Women should explain to their partners so that their partners can learn from their mistakes and do not repeat the same thing. This will help the next partner to get better treatment than the previous partner and there will be a way forward in love.
There is no need for people to stay in relationships if they are not happy, because happiness is everything. Do not stay in a relationship for the sake of appearance and what people will say when you leave the relationship. It is your relationship and your decision but you should not compromise for a ‘dead but walking relationship’. Love is special, priceless and should be treated as such.
