Don’t save her, she doesn’t want to be saved, bro. Stop wasting your valuable assets on her!

The bitter truth is that most men should stop trying to father or brother their partners. It’s a relationship, get that first, meaning you shouldn’t feel like you’re putting in all the work. Meanwhile, your girlfriend is on cruise control and not even worried about you nor the relationship. Every man needs to understand that love is a two-way street, what they do for their partners should be returned, presumably good things only. However, we cannot ignore that relationships have ups and downs. It’s our choice to remain in relationships that make or break us. Ideally, no one deserves to be in any relationship that compromises his happiness and sanity. Hence you will always hear people saying you should always exit toxic relationships. This means you should also know when love isn’t served in a relationship and stop hoping things will change.

Most men might turn a blind eye to certain expects of a relationship, which may leave them deep into trouble. This is visible when most men lower their standards to attract their significant other, which is playing with fire. Imagine taking allowing someone in your life that doesn’t fit the description of what you’re looking for in a relationship. It’s challenging for men to get good women that know what they want in life and relationship. Men like to keep it simple whenever they’re looking for a woman today, it’s usually outer beauty that attracts them to any person. Then what makes them stay in the relationship and even end up taking it to the next step, is inner beauty. The issue starts when most men overlook their needs in the relationship for the sake of their women. Meaning that they don’t care about their feelings and sacrifice every little thing in their lives to provide the life that their partners desire. 

The moment you feel like you’re doing a lot more than what you’re supposed to be doing, then it’s time to do some self-introspection and analyze your relationship. It doesn’t hurt to address this with your partner too. Otherwise, you might be playing yourself and that will lead to heartaches and unnecessary stress. Men should not try to save women in relationships, it doesn’t end well especially if they don’t want to be saved. As they’ll get blamed for everything that’s going wrong in the relationship. All that valuable time, energy, and money that you’re spending on her is a bad investment. Even if you try to knock some sense in her through meaningful conversations trying to uplift her but if she doesn’t want to listen then you’ve wasted your words. As she might turn good conversations into arguments. There’s no way you will get your return of investment when it comes to females that don’t know what they want in life. A lot of men fall into the trap of trying to look after their women, in a way that they forget to notice when they’re in relationships with themselves. 

Without any doubt, not every woman is the same, there are also good ones, which are rare to find. Hence most men that believe in love and marriage don’t hesitate when they meet one, they do everything necessary to tie her down. A household with loving partners breathes nothing but happiness. That turns a house into a home filled with an amazing family. After all, having a superb legacy is something that will always be cherished. Men don’t want an irresponsible woman who lacks self-love, accountability, and resilience to bring their children into this world. Who wants baby mama drama when you can have peace and love with a good woman.

Monday Tendencies

When the alarm goes off on Monday morning, it’s like I’m still dreaming. The funny thing is that on the weekend, I tell myself that I will not even attempt to hit snooze on my phone. I will just wake up when it’s time to leave my bed and that will be according to the alarm. Even though I sleep early on Sundays, but my issue is that I wake up just after 01:00 am, which has become a habit that irritates me. After that I struggle to fall asleep again, then this messes up my sleeping pattern and my morning schedule. The crazy thing is that I then fall asleep after 04:00 am, which is 30 minutes before I start my day. This has made my Mondays a bit challenging, as I start my day a bit later than usual. When I’m awake between 01:00 to 04:00 am, I’m not even productive since I’m still in bed and at that time the blankets are warmer.

It’s even colder to leave the bed at that time since I sleep with my phone under my pillow. I feel that it’s convenient for me to do that as I can easily hear the alarm and press snooze too. Surely, this isn’t the right way to go about a day for anyone including myself. Somehow, I know I’m not the only one who goes through this kind of tricky morning schedule. I think I’m being considerate though, this cannot be a tricky schedule, it’s just horrible in my eyes. I don’t know about you but I have to find a way to stop it. Having a schedule that will make sure that I remain productive throughout the day, while I still have time for me will do wonders for me.

I cannot start my Mondays with snooze, that’s just not right at all. It’s a new week filled with amazing possibilities that will take me further in life. Then why should I be on the back foot and not be prepared for the great Monday that I have constantly been praying for since Sunday? It makes me wonder, why can’t I execute certain impressive ideas on my mind. Then again, I look at how I use my time and that will tell me a lot about myself. There’s no way that I can have bigger dreams but my work ethic doesn’t match my visions. I know many people will always say it’s easier said than done. Hence you can have the best plan on paper, but everything lies in execution.  There’s nothing wrong with pinpointing your mistakes and then rectifying them to be a better individual. I don’t have any issues with Monday or any other day for that matter. It’s just that I was noticing a strange pattern in how I do things lately, I can’t believe I’ve been hiding behind the winter season. I’ve found myself having to choose the bed on Mondays as if that will help me with my productivity. The main challenge lately has been leaving the bed earlier than I anticipated on Monday mornings. If I miss my alarm, then I’ll wake up super late and that’s not something that I love doing. I don’t like to rush things, unfortunately, when I’m late I have to be quick.

What I’ve learned is that I cannot have my cellphone in my bedroom, so that I will have to leave the bed every time the alarm goes off. Then I will have to tell myself that I cannot go back to bed because my day has started. Then I’ll have to work with my grumpy self in the early morning and get on with it. Over the years though, I’ll be back at this and laugh it off. At the moment I’m working on progress, soon I’ll get it right. The crazy thing is that I used to wake up early to prepare for school, now I’ve gone back to the awkward sleeping pattern which will end. Monday, thank you for being beautiful! I will conquer Mondays!