Nowadays, people are hurting and even dying due to heartbreaks. Some have been able to overcome their issues, meanwhile, others have lost their battles with so-called relationships. It’s sad to hear people talk about their horrible previous experiences in relationships. Unfortunately, not many have great things to say about their exes. Hence, they’re in their past and not in the present. When you’ve had an unpleasant experience in love, that will influence your thoughts about dating and the opposite sex. Looking at it, our experiences can be our downfall; as we expect everyone we meet to be of a certain standard that we can’t even keep ourselves. Without any doubt, you’re allowed to learn from the past, but you shouldn’t live in it.
Yes, you’ve ignored numerous red flags in your love life, but that doesn’t mean you deserve anything less. Most relationships have similar red flags, but we hope that our partners will change for us. This isn’t realistic since people change only if it’s necessary for themselves. Otherwise, they stay the same forever, hence, we shouldn’t ignore them when they tell or show us who they’re from the word go. What’s impressive is those true colours come within red flags, such as lack of communication, dishonesty, infidelity, all types of abuse (physical, financial, psychological, and sexual), insecurity, dark past, non-resolution of past relationships, disrespect, etc. There’s a lot of red flags that end up dismantling a relationship if they’re not dealt with during the dating stage, as you’re getting to know your future partner. If you’re able to put yourself first in every situation, then you will be able to remove yourself respectfully from any relationship that is messing with your peace.
