Whore Phase: Is it real or a trap?

Let’s get this right, sleeping around with numerous men isn’t something that happens by mistake. Women are not possessed, as they know what they’re doing. Imagine going through the whole process of four plays and then engaging in sexual intercourse. And at the end of the day, you call it a mistake. Come on, that’s an excuse and lack of accountability. Someone taking off your clothes isn’t a mistake, it’s done deliberately and you cannot blame it on the next person. Truth be told, many women know what they’re doing when they let men have their ways with their precious jewel in between their legs. How do you expect men to respect you when they know you’ve had sexual intercourse with the community in the name of the “whore phase”. By the way, respect is earned not given on a silver platter. How many times have you had women saying they’re going through a whore phase? This is mostly said when a woman decides to go into a relationship and even marriage without having a high body count. The most famous advice: “Don’t get married without having experienced your whore phase.” If you do then your man will play with your feelings and leave you hanging. Let’s be honest, sleeping around doesn’t make you a better partner in a relationship and will never make you settle down easily. If you have a horrible past that you’re not proud of; let your partner know in the beginning, so that he can decide if he wants to stick around or not.

Remember that going through a whore phase might make you lose a great partner in your life, hence, it’s a trap. You’re not obligated to follow what your friends tell you, and even what the community says about love and relationships. However, you cannot fall into a trap of the so-called whore phase when you have what it takes to make sound decisions. How many men will marry women within a whore phase? Or even after her whore phase? Let’s take it that they’re extremely honest with their partners. Truth be told, not many men will agree to such horrendous behaviour; as they mostly want women who are exclusive to themselves, especially sexually. Imagine dating a woman as a man and he constantly hears his peers saying they’ve slept with his girlfriend. That won’t sit well with any man as they want a loyal woman who will do great for him. Hence, in most cases, if a man finds out his woman cheated on him; then his question will be: “Did you sleep with him?” As that will determine if he takes her back or not.

The whore phase has been idolised on social media in a way that numerous women feel it’s acceptable. Whoever has gone through a whole phase, they don’t share the trials and tribulations that come with it. If you think about it; you cannot go around hurting people’s feelings in the name of a whore phase, hoping that you will have a superb life thereafter. Remember that whatever you do to others will be done to you. Don’t get mad when you’re done with your whore phase; then you meet someone who will sell you a dream and end up messing with your life too and that’s called karma. Since a whore phase is a choice, how about you ask men if they want to take part in your little adventure? Before breaking their hearts and blaming everything on them, as if they were part of your sneaky plan from the beginning. Unfortunately, a whole phase exists only on women than gladly want to be part of it. Ideally, women shouldn’t condone this sort of behaviour as it’s deadly; psychologically, physically, spiritually, and even financially. Self-love is what’s needed instead of women indulging themselves in a whore phase. Sadly, some women have never come back from their whore phase as they ended up buried six feet underground as which messed with their health. Imagine having children while you’re busy with your whore life. What will they learn from your lifestyle? What example are you setting for your children? Be careful with your decisions and actions as they might affect your legacy.

Before taking a journey to whoreism, look at the pros and cons of it. Even though there’s more negativity that’s associated with it, but at the end of the day, it’s your body and your choice. When things don’t accordingly don’t say what if I don’t participate in a whore phase? Having regrets will be the death of you; live a life that you’re proud of, even if it would be turned into a television show, or book, you wouldn’t mind.  Whatever you do, take good care of yourself.

The golden rule of money: “Don’t spend money that you don’t have.”

How are your spending habits? Let’s be honest about ourselves in this massive matter, it feels amazing spending money. Others spend their money and certain individuals might spend other people’s finances.  The question is do you spend it all and then struggle the next day? Or do you spend it sparingly as you know that you have numerous investments portfolios that are lucrative? No one is saying people shouldn’t be spending their money; however, when they hit rock bottom, and start seeking help from other individuals that were never there when it was all peaches and cream then that’s a massive problem. Spending habits can make or break you, however, it depends on what you’re buying. Is it a liability or an asset? That’s what you need to ask yourself whenever you purchase something, especially that’s not part of your budget. 

Some people will say it’s their money and decisions, which is correct. Hence they can do whatever they want with their money, if they want to blow it on expensive items then they have every right to do so. The superb thing about advice is that others don’t need to utilize or practice. There are different people out there that offer all sort of advice when it comes to money, however, it’s up to as an individual if you accept it or not. Now, that’s out of the way, you need to play different scenarios in your head when it comes to money. Ask yourself what will happen if you lose your occupation or your business shutdowns? Do you have finances in place that can sustain your standard of living even after you don’t have your core cash cow anymore? Ideally, you should speak to different trusted professional financial advisors so that you can look at numerous investments options such as, buying properties, shares, venturing into new businesses, etc.

It’s all good that you have an occupation that brings pays you if you’re satisfied with the wages or salaries that’s up to you. However, we hope that you get what you’re worth within the company. There’s always something special about a happy employee or employer. Crazy enough finances play a critical role in maximizing those kinds of happiness. If you’re spending money to impress others, then that’s up to you. The question is how long will you be partaking in such an extreme sport in your life? Truth be told, it doesn’t end well for many people that take the route of spending money that they don’t have in their lives. As they end up getting unnecessary debt that will mess with their credit scores as they end up being blacklisted. If you don’t have enough money at your disposal, why don’t you try to figure out multiple streams of income? Or just try to diversify your current stream of income to get more money out of it? There’s no problem with having an occupation but the issue starts when you’re living beyond your means. Imagine if you get paid $20 000 per month but your spending habits, including your bills, are over $30 000 monthly. 

This means that you end up getting multiple loans (formal and informal loans) to support your lifestyle. Please make it make sense! You’re playing with fire. If you cannot live within your means, then it’s okay to live below your means. Whatever you do, you’re advised to never spend money you don’t. This includes planning for money that you haven’t received, as that might lead to disappointments. Have fun with your money, don’t forget that it doesn’t come easy and there will be sacrifices in your lifestyle that might be needed to get your idea of financial freedom. Make money your friend and familiarize yourself with different aspects of trying to diversify your finances. Ideally, you should earn your money, invest, save and then spend. Times are tough, but do what works for you. That’s if you don’t want to live from hand to mouth.

Body shaming is a disease! You better cure it before it’s too late!

What you see in the mirror is beautiful, if you want to change it then do it out of your own will. If you want to enhance your beauty the way you see it, then go ahead. What isn’t tolerated is taking whatever that’s been said about your appearance into consideration. We can all welcome great compliments, that’s just human nature but there’s no way we should accept any sort of body shaming. We may not all like or love each other, that’s fine but don’t voice out your horrible thoughts about the next human being. Keep it to yourself, this is when “minding the business that pays works”. However, it’s difficult for many people to stop sharing their negative thoughts about others then claim it’s a joke or banter. 

Body shaming is regarded as a horrible act of deriding or mocking a person’s physical appearance you’re looking down on God’s creation. You think you’re better since you have a certain body shape, size, and looks. Body shaming is something that has been slowly accepted in different communities and even families. Nevertheless, no one cares how the other person feels whenever their body becomes a topic and is discussed inappropriately. This has led many people from thinking twice before posting their favourite photos on social media, as they know that someone will see something wrong with it. Nowadays you find people taking more than ten photos, just to pick one or two to update their timelines. They care more about how they’re appearing on their photos and if that will attract a lot of likes and comments. They say they’re living for the gram, which is fine but if that ends up involving body shaming then it’s not fine at all!

When people ask you how do they look? This question doesn’t mean you should be rude and start picking on their body. All you have to do is be polite and answer the question like a respectable person, don’t just talk like you’re falling from a tree. Unfortunately, body shaming isn’t discussed a lot in our different surroundings, even though it’s one of the major causes of mental illness such as depression. It has led to self-doubts, low self-esteem, and confidence, sadly body-shaming contributes to bullying and suicide. Hence it is advised that you should constantly watch what you say to others, a simple slip of the tongue can be poisonous to certain individuals. Remember you can never control how other people react to what you say to them about their appearance. Hence it doesn’t hurt to be kind it’s free to show unconditional love. A lot of people in this world are suffering in silence, imagine now they have to take your nonsensical approach, as you telling them to go to the gym, do plastic surgery, eat healthy food, gain or lose weight, wear appealing clothes, etc. All-in-all you’re telling them to change their appearance, which isn’t something you be indulging with from the beginning. It’s none of your business that’s what I’m trying to tell you. Yes, everyone has numerous opinions about others, if it’s not good then keep it to yourself.

Body shaming has a wide scope that many people should get familiar with and that will make it easier for them to spot a sincere comment or an insult and even sarcasm. It’s not just limited to fat-shaming, which is what’s mostly certain individuals go through daily. That’s wrong, there’s no fun in ruining people’s day and even their childhood or adulthood through body shaming. There’s even shaming for thinness, height-shaming, even shaming of hairiness (or lack thereof), hair colour, body shape, and one’s muscularity (or lack thereof). Oh well, it doesn’t stop there as some people get shamed for their looks (facial features), shaming of tattoos and piercings, or diseases that leave physical marks on their bodies. Not everything is based on attractiveness, people should love themselves accordingly and appreciate what they’ve been blessed with in life. Body shaming shouldn’t be taken likely, it’s a silent disease and it has to be cured before it causes more disruption in people’s lives. Before even saying something to another person, think if you would enjoy it if it was said to you. Remember to treat others the way you wanted to be treated, body shaming shouldn’t be part of our societies. 

Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_shaming

Why most women DON’T deserve GOOD MEN?

Have you ever been in a relationship whereby you think everything is going well? As you're prepared to go all out for your girlfriend then you figured that she's not the person she portrayed herself to be at the beginning of the relationship. That's when you realize that you've been played and made a fool, even though you've done things but being good to her. As a good man, you were able to keep her happy throughout the relationship until the last moment whereby she screwed you over. It can be either she cheated on you, even kept secrets, and constantly lied within the relationships. Also, she was even emotionally, physically, and financially abusive. It doesn't matter what sort of pain that she brought into your life, as there will never be a proper explanation to justify her actions. If you love someone, there's nothing that should lead to hurting your partner. 

Unfortunately, many women will say there are no good men left in this world, which isn't true, since most of them end up not treating them right once they found their prince charming. They just don’t know what to do with them. Remember that most good men know what they want from a woman and a relationship. Everything is clear to them in terms of an ideal partner. They’re not asking for much though, as they mostly prefer women that will know their place in the relationship and stop interfering with things that don’t concern them. Also, they value peace, loyalty, respect, unconditional love, kindness, and patience. A good man can do everything by the book, but still, get heartbroken. Also, most good men are in the friend zone, unfortunately, the majority of women will not bother to even dissect their friendzone list. They'll be surprised how many good men they'll found within their circle.

In most cases, when certain women are at their prime they don't even look at the good man's side, as they feel that they're boring, serious about life, and cannot have fun with them in life. That's when you find the same women chasing bad boys who will leave them heartaches, trauma, and all sort of unresolved issues. After the bad boys are done with these sorts of women that's when they kick them to the curb and move on to the next better women. Then the same hurt women will now seek a good man as they want to settle down and he must heal all her wounds and past traumas. This isn't fair on a good man as he deserves someone who will be able to have a loving relationship with but not try to play a saviour. Ideally, if a woman has been hurt, she needs to take her time and go through the healing process. Not jump from relationships to relationships since that is a recipe for disaster. Everyone deserves to be loved unconditionally, even broken women, however, they should fix their issues first, by cleaning up their dirty closet filled with past traumas. Also, they will have to know what to do with a good man, once they found their Mr Right. 

Nevertheless, if you're a toxic woman then you don't deserve a good man. The crazy thing is you will constantly complain about your love life, as it seems like nothing superb is coming out of it. Then you forget that you're a common denominator, that chooses the wrong men who will promise you the world but even give it to their loved ones and themselves. Empty promises will be the death of many relationships, hence you should take your time when you're thinking about dating. Get to know the person, if they're don't meet your standards, then move on. Keep it real, don't waste each other's time, date with a purpose in mind, which is getting married and starting a family (that's if you want children).

You don’t have to react or share your opinion on things that doesn’t concern you

There are always things happening in this world, some are good and others are just horrible. However, it’s up to you what you do with the things you see, read, and even hear. At times we may experience things physically as human beings, and what matters after that is how we react to those things. It’s easier to point the figure at the next person, however, you forget about the role that you played in what has happened to you. Ideally, it’s always crucial that you protect your peace by not engaging in things or discussions that won’t grow you as a person tomorrow. At times you may lose and you find yourself in an awkward situation, then your next move will determine your faith. Before even making a decision you should look at all possible consequences of each step you take. We cannot only pay full attention to decisions and forget the possible results of our actions.

Yes, everyone here on earth has their own life and that’s fine. The issue begins when there are altercations and that’s when people’s true colours come out. How you speak and act tells a lot about you, hence you should try to be on your best behaviour. You don’t want to say or do something that you will later regret. Believe me, there’s nothing fun about living on regrets and wondering about “what if?”. All of that won’t help you in your life, anything that brings stress isn’t ideal for you. Taking care of your thoughts, body and words build you to be the best version of yourself. Remember that only you know where you want to be in the future, in terms of your career, health, family, friendship, finances, spirituality (if you believe in it), and even commitments.

Firstly, not everything that you see online is directed at you, if it was then it would have your name and surname attached to it. Hence you shouldn’t be offended by the things you see or read online. Even when you hear people talk about you behind your back, there’s nothing you can do about that, as they don’t have the nerves to say it straight to your face. All you’re doing is cultivating your environment, as you know that your circle will affect you in your future somehow. Ideally, you should be aware of who you associate yourself with in life. It’s okay to have friends, as long as they don’t force you to do what you don’t want. It’s crucial to be independent even when you’re with your peers and make your own decisions in life. Be ready to take full responsibility for your actions too. I know it’s easier said than done but it’s something that you have to work on every day. Holding yourself accountable for everything that happens to you will save you moving forward. As you will learn different ways of overcoming trials and tribulations.

At the end of the day, only you know what’s right for you, and remember that you don’t have to take in everything that you’re told. Just utilize what will work for you, and no one’s a master of life. We learn as we go and we also, acquire different knowledge from others as well, it doesn’t matter if they’re old or young. Without any doubt, minding your business will save your energy and time. The back and forth fighting and arguing won’t help anyone. You don’t want to mess with your health, just make sure you take good care of yourself. Remember that you only got one life, please make it count. Whatever you do, please make yourself proud.