Depression...

In the past couple of years, you’ve probably heard the word depression is thrown around quite often and a lot has been said about it. Unfortunately, not everyone seems to understand this group of conditions which can be severe if not treated at an early stage. In a simpler explanation, depression comprises of a person’s moods fluctuating at any given point. This becomes daunting for human beings, as they can barely make sense of their mood swings. Most people cannot only maintain a certain mood at a time. Which can be jubilant, dejected, and even vexed. Now, imagine having all these types of emotions flooding in at the same time, or even at different intervals. Hence, some people would say they’re hearing different voices on their heads telling them what to do at that moment. The brain can only take so much in a day and the moment it does more than what it is supposed to do, then that can lead to mental health disorder too.

The most common types of depression are known as:

*Clinical depression – It involves continuous melancholy moods which end up affecting your daily routine and life. Also, you become detached from certain activities whether it’s at home, work and within yourself.

*Biopolar disorder – It involves a series of mood swings that become arduous in a way that be lofty and even squad.

*Persistent depressive disorder – this is regarded as the everlasting form of depression, as it comprises low mood symptoms throughout the time.

Depression is not something that can be taken likely, even though it might be seen as a common illness within the current generation, but it’s time people get to understand depression without being judgemental. The best thing that you can do for someone with depression is to be on their side and not try too hard to be correct. Listen to what they want, then provide the best suitable solution according to what they’ve told you during their venting session or conversation. It will be easier if we’re all kind to one another, as we need each other to survive and move forward in life. We may miss a few hints about our loved ones or strangers trying to reach out to us, as they want someone to listen to them without being harsh on their unforeseen circumstances. This is a time to do better as individuals when it comes to silent killers such as depression. The moment we acknowledge that we’re all going through something personally or professionally, then we should be able to connect with another on different levels in life to find solutions.

Also, attention span differs per person, hence people are urged to take breaks in between their tough schedules. Our mental health is crucial too, therefore people should try by all means to consume healthy food, exercise and educational content that will benefit their brain too. Try by all means to protect your peace — by not dwelling on things that you can’t control. Focus on certain activities that guide you to joy and be around people that bring out the best in you.

Once you feel that you have issues with controlling your mood swings, then ideally you should consult a medical doctor, and even go to therapy. Do everything possible to cure your depression, even if it takes some time, but don’t give up on your mental health. You can reach out to people that you can trust if you want to talk and offload your challenges. At the end of the day, just know that you’re not alone.

Why most women DON’T deserve GOOD MEN?

Have you ever been in a relationship whereby you think everything is going well? As you're prepared to go all out for your girlfriend then you figured that she's not the person she portrayed herself to be at the beginning of the relationship. That's when you realize that you've been played and made a fool, even though you've done things but being good to her. As a good man, you were able to keep her happy throughout the relationship until the last moment whereby she screwed you over. It can be either she cheated on you, even kept secrets, and constantly lied within the relationships. Also, she was even emotionally, physically, and financially abusive. It doesn't matter what sort of pain that she brought into your life, as there will never be a proper explanation to justify her actions. If you love someone, there's nothing that should lead to hurting your partner. 

Unfortunately, many women will say there are no good men left in this world, which isn't true, since most of them end up not treating them right once they found their prince charming. They just don’t know what to do with them. Remember that most good men know what they want from a woman and a relationship. Everything is clear to them in terms of an ideal partner. They’re not asking for much though, as they mostly prefer women that will know their place in the relationship and stop interfering with things that don’t concern them. Also, they value peace, loyalty, respect, unconditional love, kindness, and patience. A good man can do everything by the book, but still, get heartbroken. Also, most good men are in the friend zone, unfortunately, the majority of women will not bother to even dissect their friendzone list. They'll be surprised how many good men they'll found within their circle.

In most cases, when certain women are at their prime they don't even look at the good man's side, as they feel that they're boring, serious about life, and cannot have fun with them in life. That's when you find the same women chasing bad boys who will leave them heartaches, trauma, and all sort of unresolved issues. After the bad boys are done with these sorts of women that's when they kick them to the curb and move on to the next better women. Then the same hurt women will now seek a good man as they want to settle down and he must heal all her wounds and past traumas. This isn't fair on a good man as he deserves someone who will be able to have a loving relationship with but not try to play a saviour. Ideally, if a woman has been hurt, she needs to take her time and go through the healing process. Not jump from relationships to relationships since that is a recipe for disaster. Everyone deserves to be loved unconditionally, even broken women, however, they should fix their issues first, by cleaning up their dirty closet filled with past traumas. Also, they will have to know what to do with a good man, once they found their Mr Right. 

Nevertheless, if you're a toxic woman then you don't deserve a good man. The crazy thing is you will constantly complain about your love life, as it seems like nothing superb is coming out of it. Then you forget that you're a common denominator, that chooses the wrong men who will promise you the world but even give it to their loved ones and themselves. Empty promises will be the death of many relationships, hence you should take your time when you're thinking about dating. Get to know the person, if they're don't meet your standards, then move on. Keep it real, don't waste each other's time, date with a purpose in mind, which is getting married and starting a family (that's if you want children).

Monday Tendencies

When the alarm goes off on Monday morning, it’s like I’m still dreaming. The funny thing is that on the weekend, I tell myself that I will not even attempt to hit snooze on my phone. I will just wake up when it’s time to leave my bed and that will be according to the alarm. Even though I sleep early on Sundays, but my issue is that I wake up just after 01:00 am, which has become a habit that irritates me. After that I struggle to fall asleep again, then this messes up my sleeping pattern and my morning schedule. The crazy thing is that I then fall asleep after 04:00 am, which is 30 minutes before I start my day. This has made my Mondays a bit challenging, as I start my day a bit later than usual. When I’m awake between 01:00 to 04:00 am, I’m not even productive since I’m still in bed and at that time the blankets are warmer.

It’s even colder to leave the bed at that time since I sleep with my phone under my pillow. I feel that it’s convenient for me to do that as I can easily hear the alarm and press snooze too. Surely, this isn’t the right way to go about a day for anyone including myself. Somehow, I know I’m not the only one who goes through this kind of tricky morning schedule. I think I’m being considerate though, this cannot be a tricky schedule, it’s just horrible in my eyes. I don’t know about you but I have to find a way to stop it. Having a schedule that will make sure that I remain productive throughout the day, while I still have time for me will do wonders for me.

I cannot start my Mondays with snooze, that’s just not right at all. It’s a new week filled with amazing possibilities that will take me further in life. Then why should I be on the back foot and not be prepared for the great Monday that I have constantly been praying for since Sunday? It makes me wonder, why can’t I execute certain impressive ideas on my mind. Then again, I look at how I use my time and that will tell me a lot about myself. There’s no way that I can have bigger dreams but my work ethic doesn’t match my visions. I know many people will always say it’s easier said than done. Hence you can have the best plan on paper, but everything lies in execution.  There’s nothing wrong with pinpointing your mistakes and then rectifying them to be a better individual. I don’t have any issues with Monday or any other day for that matter. It’s just that I was noticing a strange pattern in how I do things lately, I can’t believe I’ve been hiding behind the winter season. I’ve found myself having to choose the bed on Mondays as if that will help me with my productivity. The main challenge lately has been leaving the bed earlier than I anticipated on Monday mornings. If I miss my alarm, then I’ll wake up super late and that’s not something that I love doing. I don’t like to rush things, unfortunately, when I’m late I have to be quick.

What I’ve learned is that I cannot have my cellphone in my bedroom, so that I will have to leave the bed every time the alarm goes off. Then I will have to tell myself that I cannot go back to bed because my day has started. Then I’ll have to work with my grumpy self in the early morning and get on with it. Over the years though, I’ll be back at this and laugh it off. At the moment I’m working on progress, soon I’ll get it right. The crazy thing is that I used to wake up early to prepare for school, now I’ve gone back to the awkward sleeping pattern which will end. Monday, thank you for being beautiful! I will conquer Mondays!

I've taken a long one-year hiatus from blogging and here's why

You know what they say, life happens. I've been reminiscing about making a come back to blogging for a while now. I've had a lot of time on my hands ever since I've lost my occupation, thanks to the Covid-19 pandemic. One thing I'm grateful for is that I'm still alive and I still have a shot at changing my life for the better. It has been challenging having to adjust to the new normal. I still struggle getting used to wearing a mask every time I'm in public and also, practising social distancing. It's a great challenge though since we've just entered into different waves within the country. 

I make sure that I wear my mask every time I'm out and out within this beautiful country called South Africa. Even though I've minimized my movements for my health. When it comes to hygiene, I didn't have an issue with constantly washing and sanitizing my hands. I have the portable sanitiser that I keep in my pocket. Amid Covid-19, I've learned to spend more time with my loved ones and practise more self-love. Before the pandemic, I was caught up with working and putting in extra shifts to get more money every month. I lost myself chasing money, I had no time to check up on my loved ones. I didn't even have time for myself, all I did was mostly being at work. I felt like I was part of the furniture since I was there six times a week and even seven days at some point. 

I failed at balancing my work and personal life. When the country went to the level 5 lockdown towards the end of March 2020, that's when I got exposed that I had nothing else to do rather than work. I even dumped the hobbies that I had just to focus on my occupation and provide for my family and myself. Who was going to pay the rent? Who was going to buy the food? Who was going to pay for all the utilities? I've taken up the role of being a sole provider at home and I had to do it all. When I've lost the job, that's when I felt like I lost my voice within myself and my family. What even made me more furious was that I lost my love for blogging too.

I can't believe that I've been away from blogging for about 14 months. That's just crazy and I've been constantly thinking about what I'll write about as I had writer's block. I think I've overcome it by posting this piece which is filled with emotions. I barely share what's on my mind since I usually dissect a topic or what's happening in the entertainment industry. Things will have to change now for the better, as I will have to share different thoughts on my mind in the hope it will touch someone's life out there. One thing I've realized since I've been away from blogging is that I love writing and I will do whatever it takes to become better at it. What's exciting is that I am now doing this on a full-time basis, and foresee nothing but success. I am open to collaborations with different people and brands. I'm looking forward to doing sponsored posts too and even writing services. Please do email: scarcitysa@gamil for any business inquiries.

I just want to grow this blog and hopefully, it becomes one of the best in the world. Let's go on a blogging journey together. I hope you enjoy your stay on The Blog That Rocks!