Whore Phase: Is it real or a trap?

Let’s get this right, sleeping around with numerous men isn’t something that happens by mistake. Women are not possessed, as they know what they’re doing. Imagine going through the whole process of four plays and then engaging in sexual intercourse. And at the end of the day, you call it a mistake. Come on, that’s an excuse and lack of accountability. Someone taking off your clothes isn’t a mistake, it’s done deliberately and you cannot blame it on the next person. Truth be told, many women know what they’re doing when they let men have their ways with their precious jewel in between their legs. How do you expect men to respect you when they know you’ve had sexual intercourse with the community in the name of the “whore phase”. By the way, respect is earned not given on a silver platter. How many times have you had women saying they’re going through a whore phase? This is mostly said when a woman decides to go into a relationship and even marriage without having a high body count. The most famous advice: “Don’t get married without having experienced your whore phase.” If you do then your man will play with your feelings and leave you hanging. Let’s be honest, sleeping around doesn’t make you a better partner in a relationship and will never make you settle down easily. If you have a horrible past that you’re not proud of; let your partner know in the beginning, so that he can decide if he wants to stick around or not.

Remember that going through a whore phase might make you lose a great partner in your life, hence, it’s a trap. You’re not obligated to follow what your friends tell you, and even what the community says about love and relationships. However, you cannot fall into a trap of the so-called whore phase when you have what it takes to make sound decisions. How many men will marry women within a whore phase? Or even after her whore phase? Let’s take it that they’re extremely honest with their partners. Truth be told, not many men will agree to such horrendous behaviour; as they mostly want women who are exclusive to themselves, especially sexually. Imagine dating a woman as a man and he constantly hears his peers saying they’ve slept with his girlfriend. That won’t sit well with any man as they want a loyal woman who will do great for him. Hence, in most cases, if a man finds out his woman cheated on him; then his question will be: “Did you sleep with him?” As that will determine if he takes her back or not.

The whore phase has been idolised on social media in a way that numerous women feel it’s acceptable. Whoever has gone through a whole phase, they don’t share the trials and tribulations that come with it. If you think about it; you cannot go around hurting people’s feelings in the name of a whore phase, hoping that you will have a superb life thereafter. Remember that whatever you do to others will be done to you. Don’t get mad when you’re done with your whore phase; then you meet someone who will sell you a dream and end up messing with your life too and that’s called karma. Since a whore phase is a choice, how about you ask men if they want to take part in your little adventure? Before breaking their hearts and blaming everything on them, as if they were part of your sneaky plan from the beginning. Unfortunately, a whole phase exists only on women than gladly want to be part of it. Ideally, women shouldn’t condone this sort of behaviour as it’s deadly; psychologically, physically, spiritually, and even financially. Self-love is what’s needed instead of women indulging themselves in a whore phase. Sadly, some women have never come back from their whore phase as they ended up buried six feet underground as which messed with their health. Imagine having children while you’re busy with your whore life. What will they learn from your lifestyle? What example are you setting for your children? Be careful with your decisions and actions as they might affect your legacy.

Before taking a journey to whoreism, look at the pros and cons of it. Even though there’s more negativity that’s associated with it, but at the end of the day, it’s your body and your choice. When things don’t accordingly don’t say what if I don’t participate in a whore phase? Having regrets will be the death of you; live a life that you’re proud of, even if it would be turned into a television show, or book, you wouldn’t mind.  Whatever you do, take good care of yourself.

Over understanding partners get played in a relationship

When you’re in a loving relationship you have to learn to understand certain situations that might occur which are beyond anyone’s control. It’s normal to have some things figured out but you shouldn’t settle for that as you need to get to the bottom of whatever is bothering you. So that you can be able to close down that chapter in your life and get to enjoy the fruits of being on this beautiful earth. If you don’t understand something in a relationship then it’s ideal that you ask questions that you feel will break everything into something worth digesting. The person being asked questions shouldn’t get all defensive and try to insult your intelligence. After all, some situations are easier to understand than others, hence your partner shouldn’t try to manipulate you into thinking you've gone off the rails. All you trying to do is understand what they’re explaining to you and dissecting it is always important.

 

Even though some situations don’t need must probing or explanation, but it doesn’t hurt to have a conversation about things that you think might cause issues later. There’s never a situation that’s regarded as ‘small’ in a relationship, as you don’t know the repercussions of your actions. It might be a ‘small' issue to you but remember you’re not dating yourself, as long as you’re in a relationship you will have to make things clear to your partner through explanations. While you are at it, please make sure that you’re not sweeping any dirt under the carpet, as that will not end well at all. Instead of trying to make your partner understand something, make sure that you’re transparent enough in a way that your partner doesn’t have any doubts. If you aim to make your partner understand something, for once put yourself in their shoes. As they know have to constantly understand everything story you tell them about you, especially when you’re playing a victim and not take any accountability for your actions.

After you’re explaining your situation, then your partners still feel lost, then you hit them with the famous line, “you don’t understand” and “you constantly overreact when I’m telling you something”. Even worse, after you’ve found something that you didn’t know about which they were supposed to tell you from the beginning of the relationship. Or something that occurred within their day or weekend that they’ve lied about and all of a sudden you have to understand. The moment you choose not to tell something your partner that’s when you let it slowly destroy your relationship. If it makes or breaks you then your partner has to know. You cannot pick and choose what to tell or hide from your partner because anything can be deadly in a relationship. Truth be told, your partner can understand to a certain extent and that shouldn’t mean you must expect him to constantly understand your situations only. If it sounds too good to be true, then your partner has every right to question you. Then you should be ready to answer the questions honestly without causing any unnecessary drama.

After all, when you’re over understanding in a relationship you will be a doormat. You shouldn’t be afraid to point out something that doesn’t make sense to you about your partner. Imagine your partner trying to understand the reasons for your infidelity, that’s just absurd! Hence people shouldn’t do something to others that they wouldn’t want them to be done to themselves. Even though love does need some sort of understanding but it doesn’t have to be one-sided. Also, partners shouldn’t be messing with each others’ feelings, understanding might take a lot out of them and that needs to be respected. At the same time, no one deserves to be over understanding as that will lead to being played by their partners. Unfortunately, there are people in relationships that take advantage of their partners since they know their weakest links and that’s not on at all! Hence it should be addressed, if there are no changes then that will lead to a break-up. Let’s all love each other unconditionally and keep ourselves and our partners happy.