Over understanding partners get played in a relationship

When you’re in a loving relationship you have to learn to understand certain situations that might occur which are beyond anyone’s control. It’s normal to have some things figured out but you shouldn’t settle for that as you need to get to the bottom of whatever is bothering you. So that you can be able to close down that chapter in your life and get to enjoy the fruits of being on this beautiful earth. If you don’t understand something in a relationship then it’s ideal that you ask questions that you feel will break everything into something worth digesting. The person being asked questions shouldn’t get all defensive and try to insult your intelligence. After all, some situations are easier to understand than others, hence your partner shouldn’t try to manipulate you into thinking you've gone off the rails. All you trying to do is understand what they’re explaining to you and dissecting it is always important.

 

Even though some situations don’t need must probing or explanation, but it doesn’t hurt to have a conversation about things that you think might cause issues later. There’s never a situation that’s regarded as ‘small’ in a relationship, as you don’t know the repercussions of your actions. It might be a ‘small' issue to you but remember you’re not dating yourself, as long as you’re in a relationship you will have to make things clear to your partner through explanations. While you are at it, please make sure that you’re not sweeping any dirt under the carpet, as that will not end well at all. Instead of trying to make your partner understand something, make sure that you’re transparent enough in a way that your partner doesn’t have any doubts. If you aim to make your partner understand something, for once put yourself in their shoes. As they know have to constantly understand everything story you tell them about you, especially when you’re playing a victim and not take any accountability for your actions.

After you’re explaining your situation, then your partners still feel lost, then you hit them with the famous line, “you don’t understand” and “you constantly overreact when I’m telling you something”. Even worse, after you’ve found something that you didn’t know about which they were supposed to tell you from the beginning of the relationship. Or something that occurred within their day or weekend that they’ve lied about and all of a sudden you have to understand. The moment you choose not to tell something your partner that’s when you let it slowly destroy your relationship. If it makes or breaks you then your partner has to know. You cannot pick and choose what to tell or hide from your partner because anything can be deadly in a relationship. Truth be told, your partner can understand to a certain extent and that shouldn’t mean you must expect him to constantly understand your situations only. If it sounds too good to be true, then your partner has every right to question you. Then you should be ready to answer the questions honestly without causing any unnecessary drama.

After all, when you’re over understanding in a relationship you will be a doormat. You shouldn’t be afraid to point out something that doesn’t make sense to you about your partner. Imagine your partner trying to understand the reasons for your infidelity, that’s just absurd! Hence people shouldn’t do something to others that they wouldn’t want them to be done to themselves. Even though love does need some sort of understanding but it doesn’t have to be one-sided. Also, partners shouldn’t be messing with each others’ feelings, understanding might take a lot out of them and that needs to be respected. At the same time, no one deserves to be over understanding as that will lead to being played by their partners. Unfortunately, there are people in relationships that take advantage of their partners since they know their weakest links and that’s not on at all! Hence it should be addressed, if there are no changes then that will lead to a break-up. Let’s all love each other unconditionally and keep ourselves and our partners happy. 

Why most women DON’T deserve GOOD MEN?

Have you ever been in a relationship whereby you think everything is going well? As you're prepared to go all out for your girlfriend then you figured that she's not the person she portrayed herself to be at the beginning of the relationship. That's when you realize that you've been played and made a fool, even though you've done things but being good to her. As a good man, you were able to keep her happy throughout the relationship until the last moment whereby she screwed you over. It can be either she cheated on you, even kept secrets, and constantly lied within the relationships. Also, she was even emotionally, physically, and financially abusive. It doesn't matter what sort of pain that she brought into your life, as there will never be a proper explanation to justify her actions. If you love someone, there's nothing that should lead to hurting your partner. 

Unfortunately, many women will say there are no good men left in this world, which isn't true, since most of them end up not treating them right once they found their prince charming. They just don’t know what to do with them. Remember that most good men know what they want from a woman and a relationship. Everything is clear to them in terms of an ideal partner. They’re not asking for much though, as they mostly prefer women that will know their place in the relationship and stop interfering with things that don’t concern them. Also, they value peace, loyalty, respect, unconditional love, kindness, and patience. A good man can do everything by the book, but still, get heartbroken. Also, most good men are in the friend zone, unfortunately, the majority of women will not bother to even dissect their friendzone list. They'll be surprised how many good men they'll found within their circle.

In most cases, when certain women are at their prime they don't even look at the good man's side, as they feel that they're boring, serious about life, and cannot have fun with them in life. That's when you find the same women chasing bad boys who will leave them heartaches, trauma, and all sort of unresolved issues. After the bad boys are done with these sorts of women that's when they kick them to the curb and move on to the next better women. Then the same hurt women will now seek a good man as they want to settle down and he must heal all her wounds and past traumas. This isn't fair on a good man as he deserves someone who will be able to have a loving relationship with but not try to play a saviour. Ideally, if a woman has been hurt, she needs to take her time and go through the healing process. Not jump from relationships to relationships since that is a recipe for disaster. Everyone deserves to be loved unconditionally, even broken women, however, they should fix their issues first, by cleaning up their dirty closet filled with past traumas. Also, they will have to know what to do with a good man, once they found their Mr Right. 

Nevertheless, if you're a toxic woman then you don't deserve a good man. The crazy thing is you will constantly complain about your love life, as it seems like nothing superb is coming out of it. Then you forget that you're a common denominator, that chooses the wrong men who will promise you the world but even give it to their loved ones and themselves. Empty promises will be the death of many relationships, hence you should take your time when you're thinking about dating. Get to know the person, if they're don't meet your standards, then move on. Keep it real, don't waste each other's time, date with a purpose in mind, which is getting married and starting a family (that's if you want children).

Life is about choices: To vaccinate or not to vaccinate, whatever you choose, don’t judge others!

We’re living in a world that has evolved over the years and we keep on learning and unlearning every day. What has worked in the past, might not work today. It’s just a matter of understanding each situation and dissecting it. At the same time, you have to be reasonable and be willing to do your research. You cannot just take whatever the media, so-called experts or social media is feeding you. Remember that you’re your person, hence you’re entitled to your own opinions and life choices. If you believe in something that you’re willing to put your life on it, then kudos to you. However, it doesn’t mean that another person who doesn’t believe in what you’re willing to die for is wrong. We need to clarify that as human beings, that we’re unique and that needs to be respected. We shouldn’t enforce our belief system on other people, that’s hundred percent wrong.

This brings me to the different conversations that have turned into arguments or conflicts and even worse, hatred! The talks about the vaccine have become a trend, which is understandable since the world is facing the COVID-19 pandemic. It’s difficult to live life to the fullest without worrying about this deadly virus. Millions of people have succumbed to this unforgiving virus, may their souls rest in eternal peace. It’s always an unbearable feeling losing someone you love dearly in life, death isn’t something that anyone can get used to in this world, even though people die every day. This is something we hope can stop from happening, many people love living as they’ve got different dreams that they have to achieve. Even though the COVID-19 statistics are horrible to look at every time, but people have a choice to vaccinate or not take the jab. Hence no one should be forced into something that they don’t want in life.

If you’re vaccinated or not vaccinated, good for you. It doesn’t mean you should go around telling others to follow in your footsteps. Remember that it was your choice to get the jab or jabs in your body. Stop belittling other people that haven’t got vaccinated, it’s just not right and you know it. Everyone has their reasons behind not taking the vaccine, the same way you have your reasons for getting the jab. Sadly, social media have been filled with many vaccine influencers trying to sell a dream to the world. When it comes to the people that are against the vaccine, they shouldn’t question the choices of pro-vaxxers. However, they should respect their decisions of getting the jab and not try to spread conspiracy theories. We’re all human beings trying, by all means, to do what we feel is right for ourselves. At the end of the day, whether you choose to get the vaccine or not, there are always consequences that come with our decisions in life. No one deserves to be categorized in terms of being a pro-vaxxer or anti-vaxxer, it’s just ridiculous, to say the least. It has been clearly stated that even if you vaccinate you can still get COVID-19.

In life, we can always have conversations without disrespecting each other and the vaccine talks are something worth talking about nowadays. You can always get your point across easily, without insulting the intelligence of other people. The aim is to spread love, peace, kindness, and honesty. There’s no need to judge other people’s decisions, after all, we’re all here to learn from each other. If you’ve been vaccinated, please share your experience with others too.

I've taken a long one-year hiatus from blogging and here's why

You know what they say, life happens. I've been reminiscing about making a come back to blogging for a while now. I've had a lot of time on my hands ever since I've lost my occupation, thanks to the Covid-19 pandemic. One thing I'm grateful for is that I'm still alive and I still have a shot at changing my life for the better. It has been challenging having to adjust to the new normal. I still struggle getting used to wearing a mask every time I'm in public and also, practising social distancing. It's a great challenge though since we've just entered into different waves within the country. 

I make sure that I wear my mask every time I'm out and out within this beautiful country called South Africa. Even though I've minimized my movements for my health. When it comes to hygiene, I didn't have an issue with constantly washing and sanitizing my hands. I have the portable sanitiser that I keep in my pocket. Amid Covid-19, I've learned to spend more time with my loved ones and practise more self-love. Before the pandemic, I was caught up with working and putting in extra shifts to get more money every month. I lost myself chasing money, I had no time to check up on my loved ones. I didn't even have time for myself, all I did was mostly being at work. I felt like I was part of the furniture since I was there six times a week and even seven days at some point. 

I failed at balancing my work and personal life. When the country went to the level 5 lockdown towards the end of March 2020, that's when I got exposed that I had nothing else to do rather than work. I even dumped the hobbies that I had just to focus on my occupation and provide for my family and myself. Who was going to pay the rent? Who was going to buy the food? Who was going to pay for all the utilities? I've taken up the role of being a sole provider at home and I had to do it all. When I've lost the job, that's when I felt like I lost my voice within myself and my family. What even made me more furious was that I lost my love for blogging too.

I can't believe that I've been away from blogging for about 14 months. That's just crazy and I've been constantly thinking about what I'll write about as I had writer's block. I think I've overcome it by posting this piece which is filled with emotions. I barely share what's on my mind since I usually dissect a topic or what's happening in the entertainment industry. Things will have to change now for the better, as I will have to share different thoughts on my mind in the hope it will touch someone's life out there. One thing I've realized since I've been away from blogging is that I love writing and I will do whatever it takes to become better at it. What's exciting is that I am now doing this on a full-time basis, and foresee nothing but success. I am open to collaborations with different people and brands. I'm looking forward to doing sponsored posts too and even writing services. Please do email: scarcitysa@gamil for any business inquiries.

I just want to grow this blog and hopefully, it becomes one of the best in the world. Let's go on a blogging journey together. I hope you enjoy your stay on The Blog That Rocks!