Chill, it’s her mini skirt, not yours mate! Why are you tripping?

Dress codes and fashion have evolved over the years, which means designers are hard at work to come up with new trends. If a piece of clothing has been designed to be worn, then what should stop people from doing exactly that? The mini-skirts have been around for a while, even though they keep on decreasing in length and width. It’s part of the whole change, unfortunately, some people will always be against it. Even though they’re forgetting that it’s a woman’s choice to wear a mini-skirt and that should be respected. It’s sad to see a lot of men worried about the whole mini-skirt trend, especially in the summertime. Firstly, it’s hot, showing a bit of skin never hurts anyone. Even if it’s not hot, some women love to show their beautiful bodies. Let’s be honest, if that wasn’t the case, then certain social media platforms wouldn’t be popping right now. If it wasn’t for women serving our body goals and wearing whatever they want each day. Secondly, who cares what women wear? As long as they’re comfortable and feeling themselves in their mini-skirts. 

Some certain places or households might not allow mini-skirt and they have their reasons. Remember that doors might be similar in most houses, but the teachings, values as well as morals will differ. When you see someone wearing a mini-skirt, there’s no need to give them an awkward look or say comments that will hurt them or even feel like their rights are violated. Remember that in life we can only control ourselves, but not another human being. If you don’t like something, then respectfully share your opinion. If people still carry on doing what you don’t like even after talking to them online or face-to-face, then it’s ideal you remove yourself from the situation. This might be different when it comes to parents as they would want their children to follow their teachings. Meanwhile, then partners in a relationship will have to figure out common ground and decide what to do with the mini-skirt trend. 

Ideally, though, mini-skirts don’t have any problems, if certain men cannot control themselves, then they need to seek professional help and that’s just part of self-awareness.  No man has a right to enforce himself on a woman at all, even if she’s wearing a mini-skirt. If you like mini-skirts that much then tell your partner to wear them and get an extra one for yourself. Jokes aside though, even if we’re not the same in life, there’s no need to violate other people’s rights. A mini-skirt will never lead to rape, and it doesn’t mean YES to any man to have sexual intercourse with a woman. Remember that when it comes to sexual intercourse both people have to completely agree to it without any hiccups. Once you enforce yourself to a woman, whether she’s wearing a mini-skirt or not, just know that you’ve committed a crime and you will need to serve your time in prison. Also, women need to report such crimes to their police stations, no one deserves to live in fear due to a predictor that cannot control his sexual desires.

Fashion sense will always differ from person to person and that’s normal. After all, not everyone loves the same things in life. However, that doesn’t mean if you’re against something you should make other people’s lives a living hell. We’re all on earth for a specific purpose but hurting others isn’t part of it. Without any doubt, certain individuals would go as low as raping a woman for wearing a mini-skirt, which is uncalled for in life. We need to teach each other to become better individuals and be role models with greater purposes. Be yourself but make sure that you make this world a better place. Never be afraid to call out bad behaviour around yourself and even online! Even when you do wrong things call yourself out too. Be an ambassador of the good life. Or you can choose to mind your business in life. 

Body shaming is a disease! You better cure it before it’s too late!

What you see in the mirror is beautiful, if you want to change it then do it out of your own will. If you want to enhance your beauty the way you see it, then go ahead. What isn’t tolerated is taking whatever that’s been said about your appearance into consideration. We can all welcome great compliments, that’s just human nature but there’s no way we should accept any sort of body shaming. We may not all like or love each other, that’s fine but don’t voice out your horrible thoughts about the next human being. Keep it to yourself, this is when “minding the business that pays works”. However, it’s difficult for many people to stop sharing their negative thoughts about others then claim it’s a joke or banter. 

Body shaming is regarded as a horrible act of deriding or mocking a person’s physical appearance you’re looking down on God’s creation. You think you’re better since you have a certain body shape, size, and looks. Body shaming is something that has been slowly accepted in different communities and even families. Nevertheless, no one cares how the other person feels whenever their body becomes a topic and is discussed inappropriately. This has led many people from thinking twice before posting their favourite photos on social media, as they know that someone will see something wrong with it. Nowadays you find people taking more than ten photos, just to pick one or two to update their timelines. They care more about how they’re appearing on their photos and if that will attract a lot of likes and comments. They say they’re living for the gram, which is fine but if that ends up involving body shaming then it’s not fine at all!

When people ask you how do they look? This question doesn’t mean you should be rude and start picking on their body. All you have to do is be polite and answer the question like a respectable person, don’t just talk like you’re falling from a tree. Unfortunately, body shaming isn’t discussed a lot in our different surroundings, even though it’s one of the major causes of mental illness such as depression. It has led to self-doubts, low self-esteem, and confidence, sadly body-shaming contributes to bullying and suicide. Hence it is advised that you should constantly watch what you say to others, a simple slip of the tongue can be poisonous to certain individuals. Remember you can never control how other people react to what you say to them about their appearance. Hence it doesn’t hurt to be kind it’s free to show unconditional love. A lot of people in this world are suffering in silence, imagine now they have to take your nonsensical approach, as you telling them to go to the gym, do plastic surgery, eat healthy food, gain or lose weight, wear appealing clothes, etc. All-in-all you’re telling them to change their appearance, which isn’t something you be indulging with from the beginning. It’s none of your business that’s what I’m trying to tell you. Yes, everyone has numerous opinions about others, if it’s not good then keep it to yourself.

Body shaming has a wide scope that many people should get familiar with and that will make it easier for them to spot a sincere comment or an insult and even sarcasm. It’s not just limited to fat-shaming, which is what’s mostly certain individuals go through daily. That’s wrong, there’s no fun in ruining people’s day and even their childhood or adulthood through body shaming. There’s even shaming for thinness, height-shaming, even shaming of hairiness (or lack thereof), hair colour, body shape, and one’s muscularity (or lack thereof). Oh well, it doesn’t stop there as some people get shamed for their looks (facial features), shaming of tattoos and piercings, or diseases that leave physical marks on their bodies. Not everything is based on attractiveness, people should love themselves accordingly and appreciate what they’ve been blessed with in life. Body shaming shouldn’t be taken likely, it’s a silent disease and it has to be cured before it causes more disruption in people’s lives. Before even saying something to another person, think if you would enjoy it if it was said to you. Remember to treat others the way you wanted to be treated, body shaming shouldn’t be part of our societies. 

Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_shaming

"My Breasts Are Perfectly Imperfect."

Written By Sivuyile Tshalana.

 


I recently just saw this beautiful woman called Lelethu Bunu Poney who posted on her social media about her breasts and how it has been a struggle over the years to accept that she has bigger breasts than other women.

This is a touchy subject to most women across the world. As breast form part of the woman's beauty, especially when they look in the mirror. Most women don't want their breasts to be too big or too small, they just want that perfect middle size breasts. Also, they don't want their breasts to be saggy too, hence many women do a boobs job or you can call it breasts surgery. Whereby they spend a lot of money trying to make their breast perfect. This can involve increasing or decreasing the size of their breasts. We see this being mostly done by our porn stars and celebrities.

I feel that despite how the breasts of a woman look shouldn't determine her sex life. Even if a woman has a child or children, married or not married, dating or not dating, her breasts have nothing to do with her beauty or past relationships. We need to normalize having any size of breasts in our communities. I mean like to let the women know that it's okay to have big or small breasts. We also need to stop judging other women's breasts, it's none of your business if she has big or small breasts. We need to stop adding more pressure to other people's insecurities. If you got nothing good to say about her breasts, do us and yourself a massive favour by keeping your comments to yourself.