Covid-19: The lack of transparency

The Covid-19 pandemic has destroyed people’s lives beyond imagination, and it’s an era in this world that will forever be written in history. Unfortunately, millions of people had to be lost during this whole process. One would feel this could have been avoided if the health departments, government and pharmaceutical companies were transparent with all the information concerning the deadly virus. That’s the least people deserve, rather than being kept in the dark and even allegedly manipulated into believing certain fabricated findings of Covid-19. Even though this is still a developing virus that needs to be constantly studied, the information found in every study shouldn’t be kept a secret from the public. This is one of the things that‘s making the Coronavirus easily transmitted from person to person, which is a lack of knowledge within different communities.

When some individuals do their research about the virus and present some shocking findings on social media, they end up being called conspiracy theorists. Even though they’re trying to open the citizens' eyes about Covid-19, they feel that some don’t add up with the information that they keeping from their governments and healthcare services. It’s ideal to question things in life as that will lead to curiosity and you end up getting schooled by different people. Ever since Covid-19 hit the shores of different countries, there have been people that didn’t take any vaccine-associated with the virus which are called anti-vaxxers. Ideally, the vaccine was created to stop the high spread of Coronavirus and millions of doses have been taken by people across the world. Even when the vaccine was created faster than normal, the anti-vaxxers didn’t feel that it was allegedly good to be injected on human bodies. As the pharmaceutical companies that made the vaccines made sure that they put a disclaimer on their doses that they’re not held legally responsible for any side effects that pro-vaxxers experience every time they take jabs.

One would think that was enough to make people shy away from taking vaccines, however, most of them believe by seeing. As they’ve gone on to get jabbed, and whatever happens after that it’s their problem. Even though some countries tried to enforce the vaccine on their citizens, by introducing the vaccine certificate. This meant that some companies will employ people that are vaccinated, and if some employees are not vaccinated, then they will have to get the jab or stand to lose their occupations. All those people that are constantly travelling, had to be vaccinated so that they can move around the world. There are even certain places that don’t allow unvaccinated people, which was some of the tactics used to corner anti-vaxxers into buying into an alleged ‘New World Order’. Some anti-vaxxers were able to fold, however, they’re currently regretting their decision. After the recent Pzifer Covid-19 vaccine alleged side effects were leaked, which has caused a massive concern to the public.

According to the Covid-19 vaccine side effects are as per NICD.AC.ZA, people can experience pain, swelling, or redness where the vaccine was injected. Meanwhile, others have mild fever, chills, feeling tired, headache, muscle and joint aches. These were the side effects that the public has been familiar with over the past two years. Little did they know that there’s more to it than what meets the eyes, which requires people to see what’s happening with the world. According to reports, the Coronavirus has over 1 280 side effects, allegedly – including multisystem inflammatory syndrome in children, neonatal seizure, thrombotic cerebral infarction, pancreatitis, pneumonia, lobe epilepsy, myocarditis, testicular autoimmunity, etc.

Cyberbullying: It’s everyone’s problem

 

The 21st Century has seen numerous people complain about cyberbullying which is something that isn’t thoroughly dissected within the world. It’s not entirely sorted, since every day, someone is getting dragged online and there’s even an audience for such inhumane behaviours. As they might find humour in messages online that are of intimidating or threatening nature. Posting laughing emojis, memes and even responses under cyberbullies' posts rather than calling them out isn’t the way to go about helping the victims. Unfortunately, it makes them feel powerless and even doubts start to creep in their minds. Which will affect their self-esteem, mental health and influence their decision-making skills moving forward. The crazy thing is that tomorrow they can be on the receiving end since cyberbullies pick different victims.

Whenever someone begins to explore the internet and have access to different social media platforms and websites, they expect to get value for their time. As the end-users, they want to have an incredible experience in a way that they can share with their loved ones. However, not everything goes accordingly in this digital world. As some people get to be on the wrong end of the digital world in a way that ruins their whole experience. The internet was created to help people, but not to destroy them in any way. Unfortunately, with the rise of cyberbullying, things have gotten from bad to worse. In most cases, you’d hear people claiming just log off whenever you’re bullied online. As easy as that sounds, it’s doable, however, the damage has already been done. Which makes the whole resolution challenging at the same time, because one horrible comment on someone’s post can outshine the rest of the positive comments. The moment cyberbullies are addressed shows their mistakes and the standards has to be set. Which mean that people should be able to take good care of each other and not tear one another down. We all need each other in this world at some point, choosing peace is forever better than the highly glorified violence online.

Ideally, a person should pay no mind to negative individuals, as the moment you entertain them the more they get excited and they continue with their cyberbullying traits. It doesn’t cost a thing to be kind and respectful within your approach when you choose to engage with other people’s content. This might be seen as common sense, unfortunately nowadays it’s not and that’s just a pity. If we all do the basics right and not complicate each other’s lives then we wouldn’t even be addressing inhumane behaviours such as cyberbullying. It seems like as people instead of moving forward in terms of respecting each other’s opinions, and ideas, we just have this inner hatred of wanting to inflict pain on each other.

The aim shouldn’t be about who’s right or wrong, but the power of humanity should take over the conversations. Remember whatever you type and post online will one day come back to haunt you. Be careful of what you put out there, after all the internet doesn’t forget. Even if you delete, some people have screenshots of your posts. Cyberbullying is a massive problem in our communities and it shouldn’t be ignored. It’s your problem, which makes it our problem and the world’s problem.

Depression...

In the past couple of years, you’ve probably heard the word depression is thrown around quite often and a lot has been said about it. Unfortunately, not everyone seems to understand this group of conditions which can be severe if not treated at an early stage. In a simpler explanation, depression comprises of a person’s moods fluctuating at any given point. This becomes daunting for human beings, as they can barely make sense of their mood swings. Most people cannot only maintain a certain mood at a time. Which can be jubilant, dejected, and even vexed. Now, imagine having all these types of emotions flooding in at the same time, or even at different intervals. Hence, some people would say they’re hearing different voices on their heads telling them what to do at that moment. The brain can only take so much in a day and the moment it does more than what it is supposed to do, then that can lead to mental health disorder too.

The most common types of depression are known as:

*Clinical depression – It involves continuous melancholy moods which end up affecting your daily routine and life. Also, you become detached from certain activities whether it’s at home, work and within yourself.

*Biopolar disorder – It involves a series of mood swings that become arduous in a way that be lofty and even squad.

*Persistent depressive disorder – this is regarded as the everlasting form of depression, as it comprises low mood symptoms throughout the time.

Depression is not something that can be taken likely, even though it might be seen as a common illness within the current generation, but it’s time people get to understand depression without being judgemental. The best thing that you can do for someone with depression is to be on their side and not try too hard to be correct. Listen to what they want, then provide the best suitable solution according to what they’ve told you during their venting session or conversation. It will be easier if we’re all kind to one another, as we need each other to survive and move forward in life. We may miss a few hints about our loved ones or strangers trying to reach out to us, as they want someone to listen to them without being harsh on their unforeseen circumstances. This is a time to do better as individuals when it comes to silent killers such as depression. The moment we acknowledge that we’re all going through something personally or professionally, then we should be able to connect with another on different levels in life to find solutions.

Also, attention span differs per person, hence people are urged to take breaks in between their tough schedules. Our mental health is crucial too, therefore people should try by all means to consume healthy food, exercise and educational content that will benefit their brain too. Try by all means to protect your peace — by not dwelling on things that you can’t control. Focus on certain activities that guide you to joy and be around people that bring out the best in you.

Once you feel that you have issues with controlling your mood swings, then ideally you should consult a medical doctor, and even go to therapy. Do everything possible to cure your depression, even if it takes some time, but don’t give up on your mental health. You can reach out to people that you can trust if you want to talk and offload your challenges. At the end of the day, just know that you’re not alone.

Don’t ignore the red flags in your relationship, it’s for your benefit

Nowadays, people are hurting and even dying due to heartbreaks. Some have been able to overcome their issues, meanwhile, others have lost their battles with so-called relationships. It’s sad to hear people talk about their horrible previous experiences in relationships. Unfortunately, not many have great things to say about their exes. Hence, they’re in their past and not in the present. When you’ve had an unpleasant experience in love, that will influence your thoughts about dating and the opposite sex. Looking at it, our experiences can be our downfall; as we expect everyone we meet to be of a certain standard that we can’t even keep ourselves. Without any doubt, you’re allowed to learn from the past, but you shouldn’t live in it. 

Yes, you’ve ignored numerous red flags in your love life, but that doesn’t mean you deserve anything less. Most relationships have similar red flags, but we hope that our partners will change for us. This isn’t realistic since people change only if it’s necessary for themselves. Otherwise, they stay the same forever, hence, we shouldn’t ignore them when they tell or show us who they’re from the word go. What’s impressive is those true colours come within red flags, such as lack of communication, dishonesty, infidelity, all types of abuse (physical, financial, psychological, and sexual), insecurity, dark past, non-resolution of past relationships, disrespect, etc. There’s a lot of red flags that end up dismantling a relationship if they’re not dealt with during the dating stage, as you’re getting to know your future partner. If you’re able to put yourself first in every situation, then you will be able to remove yourself respectfully from any relationship that is messing with your peace. 

If you’re not bringing any happiness, laughter, and good vibes in a relationship, then don’t bother irritating another human being with your toxic energy. All-in-all you’re not ready to be in a loving relationship if you’re not willing to invest in happiness with your partner. Relationships have become like two-minutes noodles, very easy to get but harder to retain. This also involves getting to know a person, which means most women should learn to close their legs since the talking stage doesn’t mean much to many people. “Smash and run” is a real thing in the modern-day community, hence, people need to know what they want in a relationship. If it’s not working out then make peace with it, then move on. You can’t dwell in a relationship, whereby you’re the only one in love.

Let’s be honest, knowing your worth, and not settling for less might sound good on paper but in real life it’s challenging. As you have to let go of numerous people that want to be next to you whenever it’s beneficial. However, you will reap the rewards of your discipline, despite that the journey might feel a bit lonely. As long as you’ve got yourself, family, and friends, then there’s a great support system around you. In life, people need to know that toxic relationships are a pandemic and they all start by ignoring red flags. There’s more to life than relationships, if you can’t find love, don’t worry about it, surely, it will find you one day. Keep on working on yourself and building the life you know you deserve.

Whore Phase: Is it real or a trap?

Let’s get this right, sleeping around with numerous men isn’t something that happens by mistake. Women are not possessed, as they know what they’re doing. Imagine going through the whole process of four plays and then engaging in sexual intercourse. And at the end of the day, you call it a mistake. Come on, that’s an excuse and lack of accountability. Someone taking off your clothes isn’t a mistake, it’s done deliberately and you cannot blame it on the next person. Truth be told, many women know what they’re doing when they let men have their ways with their precious jewel in between their legs. How do you expect men to respect you when they know you’ve had sexual intercourse with the community in the name of the “whore phase”. By the way, respect is earned not given on a silver platter. How many times have you had women saying they’re going through a whore phase? This is mostly said when a woman decides to go into a relationship and even marriage without having a high body count. The most famous advice: “Don’t get married without having experienced your whore phase.” If you do then your man will play with your feelings and leave you hanging. Let’s be honest, sleeping around doesn’t make you a better partner in a relationship and will never make you settle down easily. If you have a horrible past that you’re not proud of; let your partner know in the beginning, so that he can decide if he wants to stick around or not.

Remember that going through a whore phase might make you lose a great partner in your life, hence, it’s a trap. You’re not obligated to follow what your friends tell you, and even what the community says about love and relationships. However, you cannot fall into a trap of the so-called whore phase when you have what it takes to make sound decisions. How many men will marry women within a whore phase? Or even after her whore phase? Let’s take it that they’re extremely honest with their partners. Truth be told, not many men will agree to such horrendous behaviour; as they mostly want women who are exclusive to themselves, especially sexually. Imagine dating a woman as a man and he constantly hears his peers saying they’ve slept with his girlfriend. That won’t sit well with any man as they want a loyal woman who will do great for him. Hence, in most cases, if a man finds out his woman cheated on him; then his question will be: “Did you sleep with him?” As that will determine if he takes her back or not.

The whore phase has been idolised on social media in a way that numerous women feel it’s acceptable. Whoever has gone through a whole phase, they don’t share the trials and tribulations that come with it. If you think about it; you cannot go around hurting people’s feelings in the name of a whore phase, hoping that you will have a superb life thereafter. Remember that whatever you do to others will be done to you. Don’t get mad when you’re done with your whore phase; then you meet someone who will sell you a dream and end up messing with your life too and that’s called karma. Since a whore phase is a choice, how about you ask men if they want to take part in your little adventure? Before breaking their hearts and blaming everything on them, as if they were part of your sneaky plan from the beginning. Unfortunately, a whole phase exists only on women than gladly want to be part of it. Ideally, women shouldn’t condone this sort of behaviour as it’s deadly; psychologically, physically, spiritually, and even financially. Self-love is what’s needed instead of women indulging themselves in a whore phase. Sadly, some women have never come back from their whore phase as they ended up buried six feet underground as which messed with their health. Imagine having children while you’re busy with your whore life. What will they learn from your lifestyle? What example are you setting for your children? Be careful with your decisions and actions as they might affect your legacy.

Before taking a journey to whoreism, look at the pros and cons of it. Even though there’s more negativity that’s associated with it, but at the end of the day, it’s your body and your choice. When things don’t accordingly don’t say what if I don’t participate in a whore phase? Having regrets will be the death of you; live a life that you’re proud of, even if it would be turned into a television show, or book, you wouldn’t mind.  Whatever you do, take good care of yourself.

The golden rule of money: “Don’t spend money that you don’t have.”

How are your spending habits? Let’s be honest about ourselves in this massive matter, it feels amazing spending money. Others spend their money and certain individuals might spend other people’s finances.  The question is do you spend it all and then struggle the next day? Or do you spend it sparingly as you know that you have numerous investments portfolios that are lucrative? No one is saying people shouldn’t be spending their money; however, when they hit rock bottom, and start seeking help from other individuals that were never there when it was all peaches and cream then that’s a massive problem. Spending habits can make or break you, however, it depends on what you’re buying. Is it a liability or an asset? That’s what you need to ask yourself whenever you purchase something, especially that’s not part of your budget. 

Some people will say it’s their money and decisions, which is correct. Hence they can do whatever they want with their money, if they want to blow it on expensive items then they have every right to do so. The superb thing about advice is that others don’t need to utilize or practice. There are different people out there that offer all sort of advice when it comes to money, however, it’s up to as an individual if you accept it or not. Now, that’s out of the way, you need to play different scenarios in your head when it comes to money. Ask yourself what will happen if you lose your occupation or your business shutdowns? Do you have finances in place that can sustain your standard of living even after you don’t have your core cash cow anymore? Ideally, you should speak to different trusted professional financial advisors so that you can look at numerous investments options such as, buying properties, shares, venturing into new businesses, etc.

It’s all good that you have an occupation that brings pays you if you’re satisfied with the wages or salaries that’s up to you. However, we hope that you get what you’re worth within the company. There’s always something special about a happy employee or employer. Crazy enough finances play a critical role in maximizing those kinds of happiness. If you’re spending money to impress others, then that’s up to you. The question is how long will you be partaking in such an extreme sport in your life? Truth be told, it doesn’t end well for many people that take the route of spending money that they don’t have in their lives. As they end up getting unnecessary debt that will mess with their credit scores as they end up being blacklisted. If you don’t have enough money at your disposal, why don’t you try to figure out multiple streams of income? Or just try to diversify your current stream of income to get more money out of it? There’s no problem with having an occupation but the issue starts when you’re living beyond your means. Imagine if you get paid $20 000 per month but your spending habits, including your bills, are over $30 000 monthly. 

This means that you end up getting multiple loans (formal and informal loans) to support your lifestyle. Please make it make sense! You’re playing with fire. If you cannot live within your means, then it’s okay to live below your means. Whatever you do, you’re advised to never spend money you don’t. This includes planning for money that you haven’t received, as that might lead to disappointments. Have fun with your money, don’t forget that it doesn’t come easy and there will be sacrifices in your lifestyle that might be needed to get your idea of financial freedom. Make money your friend and familiarize yourself with different aspects of trying to diversify your finances. Ideally, you should earn your money, invest, save and then spend. Times are tough, but do what works for you. That’s if you don’t want to live from hand to mouth.

Chill, it’s her mini skirt, not yours mate! Why are you tripping?

Dress codes and fashion have evolved over the years, which means designers are hard at work to come up with new trends. If a piece of clothing has been designed to be worn, then what should stop people from doing exactly that? The mini-skirts have been around for a while, even though they keep on decreasing in length and width. It’s part of the whole change, unfortunately, some people will always be against it. Even though they’re forgetting that it’s a woman’s choice to wear a mini-skirt and that should be respected. It’s sad to see a lot of men worried about the whole mini-skirt trend, especially in the summertime. Firstly, it’s hot, showing a bit of skin never hurts anyone. Even if it’s not hot, some women love to show their beautiful bodies. Let’s be honest, if that wasn’t the case, then certain social media platforms wouldn’t be popping right now. If it wasn’t for women serving our body goals and wearing whatever they want each day. Secondly, who cares what women wear? As long as they’re comfortable and feeling themselves in their mini-skirts. 

Some certain places or households might not allow mini-skirt and they have their reasons. Remember that doors might be similar in most houses, but the teachings, values as well as morals will differ. When you see someone wearing a mini-skirt, there’s no need to give them an awkward look or say comments that will hurt them or even feel like their rights are violated. Remember that in life we can only control ourselves, but not another human being. If you don’t like something, then respectfully share your opinion. If people still carry on doing what you don’t like even after talking to them online or face-to-face, then it’s ideal you remove yourself from the situation. This might be different when it comes to parents as they would want their children to follow their teachings. Meanwhile, then partners in a relationship will have to figure out common ground and decide what to do with the mini-skirt trend. 

Ideally, though, mini-skirts don’t have any problems, if certain men cannot control themselves, then they need to seek professional help and that’s just part of self-awareness.  No man has a right to enforce himself on a woman at all, even if she’s wearing a mini-skirt. If you like mini-skirts that much then tell your partner to wear them and get an extra one for yourself. Jokes aside though, even if we’re not the same in life, there’s no need to violate other people’s rights. A mini-skirt will never lead to rape, and it doesn’t mean YES to any man to have sexual intercourse with a woman. Remember that when it comes to sexual intercourse both people have to completely agree to it without any hiccups. Once you enforce yourself to a woman, whether she’s wearing a mini-skirt or not, just know that you’ve committed a crime and you will need to serve your time in prison. Also, women need to report such crimes to their police stations, no one deserves to live in fear due to a predictor that cannot control his sexual desires.

Fashion sense will always differ from person to person and that’s normal. After all, not everyone loves the same things in life. However, that doesn’t mean if you’re against something you should make other people’s lives a living hell. We’re all on earth for a specific purpose but hurting others isn’t part of it. Without any doubt, certain individuals would go as low as raping a woman for wearing a mini-skirt, which is uncalled for in life. We need to teach each other to become better individuals and be role models with greater purposes. Be yourself but make sure that you make this world a better place. Never be afraid to call out bad behaviour around yourself and even online! Even when you do wrong things call yourself out too. Be an ambassador of the good life. Or you can choose to mind your business in life. 

Over understanding partners get played in a relationship

When you’re in a loving relationship you have to learn to understand certain situations that might occur which are beyond anyone’s control. It’s normal to have some things figured out but you shouldn’t settle for that as you need to get to the bottom of whatever is bothering you. So that you can be able to close down that chapter in your life and get to enjoy the fruits of being on this beautiful earth. If you don’t understand something in a relationship then it’s ideal that you ask questions that you feel will break everything into something worth digesting. The person being asked questions shouldn’t get all defensive and try to insult your intelligence. After all, some situations are easier to understand than others, hence your partner shouldn’t try to manipulate you into thinking you've gone off the rails. All you trying to do is understand what they’re explaining to you and dissecting it is always important.

 

Even though some situations don’t need must probing or explanation, but it doesn’t hurt to have a conversation about things that you think might cause issues later. There’s never a situation that’s regarded as ‘small’ in a relationship, as you don’t know the repercussions of your actions. It might be a ‘small' issue to you but remember you’re not dating yourself, as long as you’re in a relationship you will have to make things clear to your partner through explanations. While you are at it, please make sure that you’re not sweeping any dirt under the carpet, as that will not end well at all. Instead of trying to make your partner understand something, make sure that you’re transparent enough in a way that your partner doesn’t have any doubts. If you aim to make your partner understand something, for once put yourself in their shoes. As they know have to constantly understand everything story you tell them about you, especially when you’re playing a victim and not take any accountability for your actions.

After you’re explaining your situation, then your partners still feel lost, then you hit them with the famous line, “you don’t understand” and “you constantly overreact when I’m telling you something”. Even worse, after you’ve found something that you didn’t know about which they were supposed to tell you from the beginning of the relationship. Or something that occurred within their day or weekend that they’ve lied about and all of a sudden you have to understand. The moment you choose not to tell something your partner that’s when you let it slowly destroy your relationship. If it makes or breaks you then your partner has to know. You cannot pick and choose what to tell or hide from your partner because anything can be deadly in a relationship. Truth be told, your partner can understand to a certain extent and that shouldn’t mean you must expect him to constantly understand your situations only. If it sounds too good to be true, then your partner has every right to question you. Then you should be ready to answer the questions honestly without causing any unnecessary drama.

After all, when you’re over understanding in a relationship you will be a doormat. You shouldn’t be afraid to point out something that doesn’t make sense to you about your partner. Imagine your partner trying to understand the reasons for your infidelity, that’s just absurd! Hence people shouldn’t do something to others that they wouldn’t want them to be done to themselves. Even though love does need some sort of understanding but it doesn’t have to be one-sided. Also, partners shouldn’t be messing with each others’ feelings, understanding might take a lot out of them and that needs to be respected. At the same time, no one deserves to be over understanding as that will lead to being played by their partners. Unfortunately, there are people in relationships that take advantage of their partners since they know their weakest links and that’s not on at all! Hence it should be addressed, if there are no changes then that will lead to a break-up. Let’s all love each other unconditionally and keep ourselves and our partners happy. 

Body shaming is a disease! You better cure it before it’s too late!

What you see in the mirror is beautiful, if you want to change it then do it out of your own will. If you want to enhance your beauty the way you see it, then go ahead. What isn’t tolerated is taking whatever that’s been said about your appearance into consideration. We can all welcome great compliments, that’s just human nature but there’s no way we should accept any sort of body shaming. We may not all like or love each other, that’s fine but don’t voice out your horrible thoughts about the next human being. Keep it to yourself, this is when “minding the business that pays works”. However, it’s difficult for many people to stop sharing their negative thoughts about others then claim it’s a joke or banter. 

Body shaming is regarded as a horrible act of deriding or mocking a person’s physical appearance you’re looking down on God’s creation. You think you’re better since you have a certain body shape, size, and looks. Body shaming is something that has been slowly accepted in different communities and even families. Nevertheless, no one cares how the other person feels whenever their body becomes a topic and is discussed inappropriately. This has led many people from thinking twice before posting their favourite photos on social media, as they know that someone will see something wrong with it. Nowadays you find people taking more than ten photos, just to pick one or two to update their timelines. They care more about how they’re appearing on their photos and if that will attract a lot of likes and comments. They say they’re living for the gram, which is fine but if that ends up involving body shaming then it’s not fine at all!

When people ask you how do they look? This question doesn’t mean you should be rude and start picking on their body. All you have to do is be polite and answer the question like a respectable person, don’t just talk like you’re falling from a tree. Unfortunately, body shaming isn’t discussed a lot in our different surroundings, even though it’s one of the major causes of mental illness such as depression. It has led to self-doubts, low self-esteem, and confidence, sadly body-shaming contributes to bullying and suicide. Hence it is advised that you should constantly watch what you say to others, a simple slip of the tongue can be poisonous to certain individuals. Remember you can never control how other people react to what you say to them about their appearance. Hence it doesn’t hurt to be kind it’s free to show unconditional love. A lot of people in this world are suffering in silence, imagine now they have to take your nonsensical approach, as you telling them to go to the gym, do plastic surgery, eat healthy food, gain or lose weight, wear appealing clothes, etc. All-in-all you’re telling them to change their appearance, which isn’t something you be indulging with from the beginning. It’s none of your business that’s what I’m trying to tell you. Yes, everyone has numerous opinions about others, if it’s not good then keep it to yourself.

Body shaming has a wide scope that many people should get familiar with and that will make it easier for them to spot a sincere comment or an insult and even sarcasm. It’s not just limited to fat-shaming, which is what’s mostly certain individuals go through daily. That’s wrong, there’s no fun in ruining people’s day and even their childhood or adulthood through body shaming. There’s even shaming for thinness, height-shaming, even shaming of hairiness (or lack thereof), hair colour, body shape, and one’s muscularity (or lack thereof). Oh well, it doesn’t stop there as some people get shamed for their looks (facial features), shaming of tattoos and piercings, or diseases that leave physical marks on their bodies. Not everything is based on attractiveness, people should love themselves accordingly and appreciate what they’ve been blessed with in life. Body shaming shouldn’t be taken likely, it’s a silent disease and it has to be cured before it causes more disruption in people’s lives. Before even saying something to another person, think if you would enjoy it if it was said to you. Remember to treat others the way you wanted to be treated, body shaming shouldn’t be part of our societies. 

Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_shaming

Why most women DON’T deserve GOOD MEN?

Have you ever been in a relationship whereby you think everything is going well? As you're prepared to go all out for your girlfriend then you figured that she's not the person she portrayed herself to be at the beginning of the relationship. That's when you realize that you've been played and made a fool, even though you've done things but being good to her. As a good man, you were able to keep her happy throughout the relationship until the last moment whereby she screwed you over. It can be either she cheated on you, even kept secrets, and constantly lied within the relationships. Also, she was even emotionally, physically, and financially abusive. It doesn't matter what sort of pain that she brought into your life, as there will never be a proper explanation to justify her actions. If you love someone, there's nothing that should lead to hurting your partner. 

Unfortunately, many women will say there are no good men left in this world, which isn't true, since most of them end up not treating them right once they found their prince charming. They just don’t know what to do with them. Remember that most good men know what they want from a woman and a relationship. Everything is clear to them in terms of an ideal partner. They’re not asking for much though, as they mostly prefer women that will know their place in the relationship and stop interfering with things that don’t concern them. Also, they value peace, loyalty, respect, unconditional love, kindness, and patience. A good man can do everything by the book, but still, get heartbroken. Also, most good men are in the friend zone, unfortunately, the majority of women will not bother to even dissect their friendzone list. They'll be surprised how many good men they'll found within their circle.

In most cases, when certain women are at their prime they don't even look at the good man's side, as they feel that they're boring, serious about life, and cannot have fun with them in life. That's when you find the same women chasing bad boys who will leave them heartaches, trauma, and all sort of unresolved issues. After the bad boys are done with these sorts of women that's when they kick them to the curb and move on to the next better women. Then the same hurt women will now seek a good man as they want to settle down and he must heal all her wounds and past traumas. This isn't fair on a good man as he deserves someone who will be able to have a loving relationship with but not try to play a saviour. Ideally, if a woman has been hurt, she needs to take her time and go through the healing process. Not jump from relationships to relationships since that is a recipe for disaster. Everyone deserves to be loved unconditionally, even broken women, however, they should fix their issues first, by cleaning up their dirty closet filled with past traumas. Also, they will have to know what to do with a good man, once they found their Mr Right. 

Nevertheless, if you're a toxic woman then you don't deserve a good man. The crazy thing is you will constantly complain about your love life, as it seems like nothing superb is coming out of it. Then you forget that you're a common denominator, that chooses the wrong men who will promise you the world but even give it to their loved ones and themselves. Empty promises will be the death of many relationships, hence you should take your time when you're thinking about dating. Get to know the person, if they're don't meet your standards, then move on. Keep it real, don't waste each other's time, date with a purpose in mind, which is getting married and starting a family (that's if you want children).

Don’t save her, she doesn’t want to be saved, bro. Stop wasting your valuable assets on her!

The bitter truth is that most men should stop trying to father or brother their partners. It’s a relationship, get that first, meaning you shouldn’t feel like you’re putting in all the work. Meanwhile, your girlfriend is on cruise control and not even worried about you nor the relationship. Every man needs to understand that love is a two-way street, what they do for their partners should be returned, presumably good things only. However, we cannot ignore that relationships have ups and downs. It’s our choice to remain in relationships that make or break us. Ideally, no one deserves to be in any relationship that compromises his happiness and sanity. Hence you will always hear people saying you should always exit toxic relationships. This means you should also know when love isn’t served in a relationship and stop hoping things will change.

Most men might turn a blind eye to certain expects of a relationship, which may leave them deep into trouble. This is visible when most men lower their standards to attract their significant other, which is playing with fire. Imagine taking allowing someone in your life that doesn’t fit the description of what you’re looking for in a relationship. It’s challenging for men to get good women that know what they want in life and relationship. Men like to keep it simple whenever they’re looking for a woman today, it’s usually outer beauty that attracts them to any person. Then what makes them stay in the relationship and even end up taking it to the next step, is inner beauty. The issue starts when most men overlook their needs in the relationship for the sake of their women. Meaning that they don’t care about their feelings and sacrifice every little thing in their lives to provide the life that their partners desire. 

The moment you feel like you’re doing a lot more than what you’re supposed to be doing, then it’s time to do some self-introspection and analyze your relationship. It doesn’t hurt to address this with your partner too. Otherwise, you might be playing yourself and that will lead to heartaches and unnecessary stress. Men should not try to save women in relationships, it doesn’t end well especially if they don’t want to be saved. As they’ll get blamed for everything that’s going wrong in the relationship. All that valuable time, energy, and money that you’re spending on her is a bad investment. Even if you try to knock some sense in her through meaningful conversations trying to uplift her but if she doesn’t want to listen then you’ve wasted your words. As she might turn good conversations into arguments. There’s no way you will get your return of investment when it comes to females that don’t know what they want in life. A lot of men fall into the trap of trying to look after their women, in a way that they forget to notice when they’re in relationships with themselves. 

Without any doubt, not every woman is the same, there are also good ones, which are rare to find. Hence most men that believe in love and marriage don’t hesitate when they meet one, they do everything necessary to tie her down. A household with loving partners breathes nothing but happiness. That turns a house into a home filled with an amazing family. After all, having a superb legacy is something that will always be cherished. Men don’t want an irresponsible woman who lacks self-love, accountability, and resilience to bring their children into this world. Who wants baby mama drama when you can have peace and love with a good woman.

Life is about choices: To vaccinate or not to vaccinate, whatever you choose, don’t judge others!

We’re living in a world that has evolved over the years and we keep on learning and unlearning every day. What has worked in the past, might not work today. It’s just a matter of understanding each situation and dissecting it. At the same time, you have to be reasonable and be willing to do your research. You cannot just take whatever the media, so-called experts or social media is feeding you. Remember that you’re your person, hence you’re entitled to your own opinions and life choices. If you believe in something that you’re willing to put your life on it, then kudos to you. However, it doesn’t mean that another person who doesn’t believe in what you’re willing to die for is wrong. We need to clarify that as human beings, that we’re unique and that needs to be respected. We shouldn’t enforce our belief system on other people, that’s hundred percent wrong.

This brings me to the different conversations that have turned into arguments or conflicts and even worse, hatred! The talks about the vaccine have become a trend, which is understandable since the world is facing the COVID-19 pandemic. It’s difficult to live life to the fullest without worrying about this deadly virus. Millions of people have succumbed to this unforgiving virus, may their souls rest in eternal peace. It’s always an unbearable feeling losing someone you love dearly in life, death isn’t something that anyone can get used to in this world, even though people die every day. This is something we hope can stop from happening, many people love living as they’ve got different dreams that they have to achieve. Even though the COVID-19 statistics are horrible to look at every time, but people have a choice to vaccinate or not take the jab. Hence no one should be forced into something that they don’t want in life.

If you’re vaccinated or not vaccinated, good for you. It doesn’t mean you should go around telling others to follow in your footsteps. Remember that it was your choice to get the jab or jabs in your body. Stop belittling other people that haven’t got vaccinated, it’s just not right and you know it. Everyone has their reasons behind not taking the vaccine, the same way you have your reasons for getting the jab. Sadly, social media have been filled with many vaccine influencers trying to sell a dream to the world. When it comes to the people that are against the vaccine, they shouldn’t question the choices of pro-vaxxers. However, they should respect their decisions of getting the jab and not try to spread conspiracy theories. We’re all human beings trying, by all means, to do what we feel is right for ourselves. At the end of the day, whether you choose to get the vaccine or not, there are always consequences that come with our decisions in life. No one deserves to be categorized in terms of being a pro-vaxxer or anti-vaxxer, it’s just ridiculous, to say the least. It has been clearly stated that even if you vaccinate you can still get COVID-19.

In life, we can always have conversations without disrespecting each other and the vaccine talks are something worth talking about nowadays. You can always get your point across easily, without insulting the intelligence of other people. The aim is to spread love, peace, kindness, and honesty. There’s no need to judge other people’s decisions, after all, we’re all here to learn from each other. If you’ve been vaccinated, please share your experience with others too.

Don’t believe any woman that says her ex-boyfriend has a small d*ck…

If you have social media, then you’ve probably seen a lot of posts about women trolling their ex-partners. It’s a relationship for a reason, which means what things will have to be discussed within the people involved. If things don’t go according to the way everyone plans, then there’s always professional help available. That’s if both partners want things to work out, after all, there are trials and tribulations within love. Bear in mind that it doesn’t involve any sort of abuse, that cannot be regarded as the ups and downs of a loving relationship. Let’s call it what it is, that’s just toxicity.

A trend of certain women talking about their ex-boyfriend’s genitals online has to be one of the worst things that they can do to the person that they claimed they once loved. Even worse when some so-called men entertain such women on social media. As they laugh and share their inhumane opinions within the comment section. Remember that as a man tables might turn tomorrow and it can be you be being dragged online. The “short d*ck” conversations mostly come out after the break-up, as for yourself why? You’ve probably seen posts like this on social media: “Your d*ck was small, hence I left you.” “I don’t talk with guys with tiny d*ck.” “There’s no d*ck print, you want me to starve.” All of this is done on purpose, just to belittle the man online. It’s just a low blow that ends up trending on social media since many people are attracted to negative things.

Also, the “short d*ck” posts shouldn’t be entertained, since most women can lie about it, even if it was long or big, she will still say it was tiny, just to troll you. Ask yourself this question, why didn’t she address this within the relationship and tried to seek help for her man? Why she had to use a public platform to share her personal life? Relationships are all about getting better together, it has to involve teamwork and problem-solving skills. It’s not just about loving your partner in good times and then making fun of him in bad times. The “short d*ck” posts shouldn’t be getting any attention from males unless they’re trying to school the women. As a woman, if you’ve tried everything to help your ex-boyfriend sort out his private part issues and nothing good came out of it. Then there’s no need to spread his business all over social media or anywhere for that matter. Just separate in peace and live your best lives. No need to talk and post about your ex-partner. It’s over, move on, no validation or joy comes out of disrespecting others.