Don’t ignore the red flags in your relationship, it’s for your benefit

Nowadays, people are hurting and even dying due to heartbreaks. Some have been able to overcome their issues, meanwhile, others have lost their battles with so-called relationships. It’s sad to hear people talk about their horrible previous experiences in relationships. Unfortunately, not many have great things to say about their exes. Hence, they’re in their past and not in the present. When you’ve had an unpleasant experience in love, that will influence your thoughts about dating and the opposite sex. Looking at it, our experiences can be our downfall; as we expect everyone we meet to be of a certain standard that we can’t even keep ourselves. Without any doubt, you’re allowed to learn from the past, but you shouldn’t live in it. 

Yes, you’ve ignored numerous red flags in your love life, but that doesn’t mean you deserve anything less. Most relationships have similar red flags, but we hope that our partners will change for us. This isn’t realistic since people change only if it’s necessary for themselves. Otherwise, they stay the same forever, hence, we shouldn’t ignore them when they tell or show us who they’re from the word go. What’s impressive is those true colours come within red flags, such as lack of communication, dishonesty, infidelity, all types of abuse (physical, financial, psychological, and sexual), insecurity, dark past, non-resolution of past relationships, disrespect, etc. There’s a lot of red flags that end up dismantling a relationship if they’re not dealt with during the dating stage, as you’re getting to know your future partner. If you’re able to put yourself first in every situation, then you will be able to remove yourself respectfully from any relationship that is messing with your peace. 

If you’re not bringing any happiness, laughter, and good vibes in a relationship, then don’t bother irritating another human being with your toxic energy. All-in-all you’re not ready to be in a loving relationship if you’re not willing to invest in happiness with your partner. Relationships have become like two-minutes noodles, very easy to get but harder to retain. This also involves getting to know a person, which means most women should learn to close their legs since the talking stage doesn’t mean much to many people. “Smash and run” is a real thing in the modern-day community, hence, people need to know what they want in a relationship. If it’s not working out then make peace with it, then move on. You can’t dwell in a relationship, whereby you’re the only one in love.

Let’s be honest, knowing your worth, and not settling for less might sound good on paper but in real life it’s challenging. As you have to let go of numerous people that want to be next to you whenever it’s beneficial. However, you will reap the rewards of your discipline, despite that the journey might feel a bit lonely. As long as you’ve got yourself, family, and friends, then there’s a great support system around you. In life, people need to know that toxic relationships are a pandemic and they all start by ignoring red flags. There’s more to life than relationships, if you can’t find love, don’t worry about it, surely, it will find you one day. Keep on working on yourself and building the life you know you deserve.